Post # 1
My best-friend of 15 years rang tonight and her NEW boyfriend was denying her from attending my Bachelorette party which was a shower tea with Grandmas and Aunties, Dinner at Japanese and Karaoke. Because he has a fear of being hurt from a prevous relationship that ended with something happening at a Bachelorette. I’m not one for strippers, penis temes or anything of the sort. I just wanted dinner and fun with my girlfriends.
I had my first Bridezilla moment and told her that she had to attend even if I had to kidnap her to attend.She is coming but why put a new relationship before 15 years of friendship???It’s all good she is attending now but I don’t trust her new guy.
I have had a horrible few weeks and this was the last straw. I mean who tells someone I can’t come to your Bachelorette Party after you tell them that your Mum has Breast Cancer and suspected other problems. Oh MY! Bad timing! She is part of my bridal party and my best friend of 15 years but something alarms me about her new relationship.
What would you do in my situation?
Post # 3
If she can’t go, she can’t go. I woudn’t complain about that per se.
However, I would strongly recommend that she dump her distrusting control freak of a new boyfriend.
Post # 4
I know, Urgh. I love her to death but that she was contemplating not going because of HIM is worse.
Post # 5
I agree with your perspective but I think you are more likely to get through to her if you make this about his unreasonableness rather than about your bach party. In the long run he could affect a lot more about your friendship than your bach party. Try to be the bigger person since this is not about you even though it affects you.
Post # 6
I can understand that you are frustrated. I would be pissed, too. But, you are in a good relationship with a man who trusts you. Unfortunately, she is in (what sounds like) a horrible relationship. Though she should kick this A$$WIPE to the curb, you can’t say such to her. Hopefully she will figure it out. Perhaps a better way to come about this is to tell her it’s ok, but that once this boyfriend is gone she will be left with hard and bitter feelings about the fact that she missed one of the biggest most fun parties of her long-time best friend. It is ALL her loss. Not easy to come to terms with for you, but I feel more sorry for your friend. Truly. And, I’m sorry this is happening to you when you should be having the time of your life right now! 🙂