(Closed) What would you do?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Does your husband think it would be rude if you didn’t go?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

b@Mrsgurzakovic:  

personally, I wouldn’t want to go either. I think that if your husband says that both of you can’t go because he has to work, that’s a good enough excuse.
Maybe you and your husband can invite his family over at a different time. Then you can get to know them and they’ll see that you’re not avoiding socializing with them.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

If I were close with the sister and mom then I would go

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I too would go.  You’re family now.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would definitely go! You’re family now! and what better way to show you’re trying to fit in and get to know everyone by going without him! It may be uncomfortable at first, but the more often you do it the more normal it will become!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Meh I wouldn’t go. Not without my husband for at least the first time. 

Post # 11
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Newbee

I’d go, you are part of the family now and you’ll have his mom and sister there so im sure you wont feel left out or uncomfortable. i think its the perfect opportunity to bond more with the family and for them to embrace you as part of theirs as well.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

If the Invite had come ONLY to you and your Hubby, and he couldn’t make it, then ya, I’d not attend alone.

BUT because it is a “Family Dinner” and both your Mother-In-Law, SIL and the two of you have been invited, even though your Hubby can’t go I’d still go (more so cause you live with the others)

It really is about making the effort to show that you appreciate the invite, and are part of a BIGGER social unit now… “an Extended Family” (don’t be “the girl” who can’t go anywhere without her Hubby at her side… be the confident spouse)

Hope this helps,

PS… ETIQUETTE TIP – Be a gracious guest… smile, be polite, bring or send a gift for the Host (such as wine or flowers… the later day before or after… if wine don’t expect your Host to serve it to you… as it is a Gift for them)… and send a Thank You Note afterwards.  In an essence here you’ll be representing BOTH yourself & your Hubby so put your best foot forward… it will make an impession, and hold you in good stead with that side of the family.

 

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