(Closed) What would you do about this homeless man?

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Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

homeless people frequently do have mental problems. 

if he doesn’t loiter and he actually buys coffee, i don’t see why you’d kick him out, as long as he’s not taking “showers” in the bathroom. 

i’m guessing you’re not in a city? in my experience, people who don’t/haven’t lived in cities tend to freak out about homeless people, even though most of them are harmless. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@SweetRose2011: How sad.  I feel bad to hear stories such as this especially because of what I hear at work.  I work in a unit where it’s a combination of geriatrics and adults.  If you think there’s a mental issue, I’d call the police and have them take him to the hospital to be assessed.  That way he can be placed in a center like the one I work at.  He’ll have food, clothes, and a warm bed to sleep in.  But please, if you do decide to go this route, make sure the police are told that he is NO DANGER to anyone.  I wouldn’t want to see him being treated like a threat for no reason.

I enjoyed reading the story about him playing in the snow and throwing snowballs.  It seems he may have the mentality of a young child, but I could be completely wrong because I don’t know everything.  Nor have I ever spoken to him.  I totally imagined a grown man doing this though.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I don’t know if i would call the police, cuz I would think they may throw him in jail regardless, depending on how the police are there.  Maybe you can call the local mental health dept, to see what they say? maybe they will send a counselor out there to speak to him?

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@DesireeAnne: The unfortunate thing is depending on where she lives even if it is a mental issue not all areas have support for this. Unfortunately mental health budgets are one of the first things to get cut in bad economic times, in the area where I live we don’t have facilities for people to stay if they have mental health issues.

 

 

@SweetRose2011: I agree with you, if he is not harming anyone or offending people by his actions (not just existing and being homeless) I don’t think he should be kicked out. Unfortunately many people just aren’t comfortable with things they don’t understand, and he is obviously not understood, and neither is homelessness typically. Good luck with this situation.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I worked at a homeless shelter for a year.  What you’re describing is quite common. I think that it would be a kindness to let him stay, if he’s not breaking any rules, being disruptive by yelling, or disturbing customers. But if he ever is threatening, you should feel no guilt at all about banning him/calling the cops.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MrsSl82be: The reason I say call the police is because they (in my area) often take people such as him to the ER to be assessed.  Most mental health centers do not take direct admissions.  I work in one so I’m just forwarding my knowledge.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m with you… this doesn’t seem like a big deal to me. It seems like he’s pretty harmless and he’s just trying to get out of the cold. He probably does have mental, drug, or alcohol problems. Most people who are homeless for extended periods of time do. But as long as he isn’t bothering anyone I think you should let him stay. Good karma and all that 🙂

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

He may have mental issues, yes. But so may other customers, yet it’s not obvious bc they don’t wear odd clothes, or whatever else makes him stand out. Treat him as you would anyone else — if he’s truly a threat, you have every right to call the police. 

If you are interested in learning more about interacting with homeless people, or simply looking for a volunteer idea, I recommend checking out a soup kitchen/Salvation Army/similar program, even if it’s just once or twice.

If your coworkers are upset about him, invite them with you and invite them to have some compassion. You sound like you do care about his well-being, and the most respectful thing is to treat him like any other customer who wants to get warm. Of course, as others have said, if his behavior becomes a problem, treat that the same as any other problem. 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@DesireeAnne: gotcha. I just think about the ones around here, and don’t know if they would do that before throwing him in jail first…

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MrsSl82be: I fully understand.  There’s always the possibility of that happening.  

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper

Are there any shelters in the area, you could tell him about?  I’m assuming he already knows about them, but it might be a nice gesture.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It does sound like he has psychiatric problems, but unless he’s a threat to himself or others, he can’t be forcibly taken to a psych ER.  I would call the office of mental health to find out if there’s any options for him to be evaluated, possibly taken to a shelter, etc.  It is really cold out these days, and it’s nice of you to not be so turned off by his homelessness that you wouldn’t help him out.

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