(Closed) What would you do? AKA: Am I a brat/

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Have you tried reminding Future Mother-In-Law you dont eat those kinds of food?  Id just try explaining your diet to her again and ask if she would mine if you brought something to contribute.  Or have your Fiance talk to her like I would make mine do ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Can you eat before you get there?  That’s what I usually do when I know I won’t like the food somewhere!  It’s a drag but at least you avoid upsetting the host!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I would eat before I go instead. No one is required to cater to anyone else’s dietary wants or needs, which sucks if you’re allergic or a vegan or something, but that’s the case. 

Or if you’re feeling bitchy, I’d bring something for myself that the other guests might want to share ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I wouldn’t say brat, maybe take a little bit of something, have a bite, and then load up on fruit/what you would eat, and say that the other stuff isn’t sitting well with you right now.  

It’s what I do when I’m out with BF’s family and they’re all getting massive food, and I only want a little. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would eat before hand and then have fruit when you get there. And just say your really not feeling hungry but by gosh that fruit looks good!

Or just plead sick before hand? orrr…. just tell her straight to her face that your worried about not fitting into your dress and so your watching what you eat?

There are so many excuses… sometimes I wish I was able to blurt out the truth without hurting someones feelings!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Ooh, I’d probably go towards the side of eating before you get there, then eating a little bit of fruit and making a comment about how you have to fit in the dress! Hopefully she’ll get the hint for the future.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

maybe don’t term it like: i dont eat crap, but rather “I have a sensitive stomach and i really get sick from eating rich foods” and then offer to bring something healthier

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with most, it is your Future Mother-In-Law and she is very proud of her food and thinks she is being really nice to you. I would say, it won’t hurt to eat just a little tiny bit of everything.

Sticking to the fruit might be OK, but consider that you might offend your Future Mother-In-Law and that may be worse that just sucking it up for a few hours and taking in a mass amout of calories.

But at the same time, lying and saying you are not hungry or don’t feel well won’t go very far because you would have to do that your whole married life. Have you asked your FH to help? Maybe he could speak with her?

I do alot of cooking, and it is a special way that I should people I love them – I get in the kitchen and make a big meal. She might be the same way?

Good Luck!

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

haha well it could be true! i actually do it crap a lot (sigh), but after a few months of “being good” if i eat crap i do get really sick. totally plausible ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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ditto I do too Corgi. It is terrible isn’t it?!?!

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah tell a little white lie, lol.n But it’ll get excessive if you say that every single time. It’ll only get you so far. So i think it just looks snooty/rude if you don’t eat her foods out of choice. It comes off like “i’m too good to eat your food because *I* actually care what I eat”. Particuarly if Future Mother-In-Law is overweight?….that can come across bad, too. Trust me on this! Unless you’re vegan/very specific dietary reasons like you’re diebetic. Otherwise it comes off bad. Say too much grease makes you sick and eat very small portions. Make an effort to have a few bites. JUST a few. Lots of fruit, too. Take some yogurt? Have an extra cup of coffee? Does she make eggs at all? Maybe the eggs will be ok???

I don’t eat carbs for dinner–i stifk with proteins and fresh steamed veggies. But when I’m out with the fam I make an exception. I don’t need to be mean about it and all hoity toity ya know?? It just comes across bad, even if i have the best of intentions with my own body. Man, if i made steak and they came over and were like, “oh i don’t eat steak because…” and then listed something about red meatl being bad for you…well, whatever, that’d upset me! Especially the next time i saw them eating a cookie =].

Maybe your Fiance can subtly suggest your mom keep some yogurt for you?

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