(Closed) What would you do? Are we being unreasonable??

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: Would you let them come
    yes. : (12 votes)
    29 %
    No. : (28 votes)
    67 %
    other Ill explain. : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    You are not being unreasonable.  Hold your ground or you will be miserable at your reception while those two little monsters are running around.  It perfectly reasonable that the sibs attend the wedding and then go home with a sitter.  And you’re right:  if you give in to this request then everyone else will want to bring their kids.  It’s a slippery slope. Stay off! lol

    Post # 4
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    1363 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Oh dear. If it’s FMIL’s kids and your fiance’s siblings, I would have to make an exception in this case.

    Maybe just send them home early too?

    Post # 5
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    35 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    i  don’t think you are being unreasonable at all! kids still cost you a plate and they don’t even eat it..plus it changes the whole party atmosphere because parents are busy running after their kids instead of having fun and dancing.

    i’m having a destination wedding so i ave no real choice to let them bring their kids.. but otherwise i wouldn’t want them there either.

    his mom will come around..she’s just being difficult to ahve her way..when people tell methat if i don’t do whatever, they won’t come…i say “fine then don’t come” well i say it nicer then that, but essentially that’s what i’m saying!

    however it might be touchy becaue your son is there… but he is leaving early so…

    look people will ahve problems with everything and anything you do on your wedding day, you just have to push on through and do it the way you and Fiance want

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee

    I say hold your ground. I think you understood that this would be controversial when you made the decision, and and that was a burden you were willing to bare. I can understand why she would be upset, but I think you’re being perfectly reasonable. 

    Post # 7
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    921 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    A lot of people make exceptions for close family. It is entirely up to you though who you want at your wedding. If you don’t want them there stand your ground.

    Post # 7
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    1843 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @Just_Squeeze:  I agree with this.  While I understand a “no kids” reception, I would sure think mother of the groom’s children, which happen to be Groom’s siblings WOULD be invited, regardless of their ages.

    Post # 8
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    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Wait…so these are your FMIL’s children and your FI’s siblings? I think you are starting a war that doesn’t need to be started.

    Post # 9
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I am the first one to defend “adult only” weddings (we’re having one and wouldn’t have it any other way) but, if either of us had young siblings we would make an exception for them. It’s one thing when we’re talking nieces, nephews and cousins but siblings are different in my book.

    With that said, if these kids are a nightmare and will more than likely make a scene or ruin something then you are well within your rights to request that they not be in attendance. It’s YOUR day so no-one else gets to dictate anything. 

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I agree that siblings should trump cousins and friends and such. Since you have a child of your own who will be there, I think it’s a lot harder to say no to young siblings. If there were literally going to be no children there whatsoever, I’d say stand your ground. But since your son will be there, I think it’s right to let FI’s siblings be there too.

    Post # 14
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    2018 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    And here’s another thing: Isn’t your own son going home early?  It seems fair to just do an across-the-board ban on children.  Your Mother-In-Law will get over it and you’ll have a much nicer wedding.

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