(Closed) What would you do? At work and bored and thought of this….

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What would you do?
    Throw it in his face and tell him he is gone! : (19 votes)
    17 %
    Grab his CC and go buy yourself one? : (12 votes)
    11 %
    Smack him with a fish? : (55 votes)
    50 %
    Pretend it never happend and keep your ring : (23 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
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    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I didn’t vote in the poll but we’d have to have a very serious conversation about why he lied about it.

    The issue wouldn’t be that the ring was “cheap”, it would be that he lied.

    I’ve seen the GIA certificate for the diamond as well as other purchase paperwork, so if it turned out not to be real that’d be one hell of an elaborate lie.

    It’d make me wonder what else in our relationship wasn’t what it seemed to be.

    Post # 4
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    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Mine is not fake, I had a jeweler look at it, I got it from a pawn shop for $89 but it’s worth $300! It’s just a little teeny itty bitty ring…

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    Post # 5
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    802 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I would be pissssed. Not because it’s fake, but because he lied. Mine is real, at least the band anyway- i’m allergic to nickle so i’d break out if it wasn’t real ahaha 🙂

    I voted smack him with a fish, because there is no other logical thing to do in that sitation.

    Post # 6
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    1736 posts
    Bumble bee

    Hm…this is a conundrum. I have to agree with PP. It’s not so much that the ring isn’t a genuine diamond, but more the fact that he lied about it. Truthfully, I think there is too much emphasis given to the ring itself … and what it symbolizes is sometimes lost or forgotten. If the ring is given with the right intentions and accepted with the right intentions…it shouldn’t matter what the size of the ring is, or the kind of gemstone! That being said…if the man feels he has to lie about it…and not be truthful about what he can or cannot afford…then he’s proposing at the wrong time and to the wrong person. Honesty is everything in a relationship!

    Post # 7
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    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I agree with the other PP that I would not be mad that it was fake but about the lie. I chose grab the cc and buy one myself but in all seriousness I would talk to him about it.

    Post # 8
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    1086 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I wouldn’t be mad really, I mean how would he be lying? I’m sure when presenting a ring to someone he wont say “Oh this is a real diamond so and so”. I mean at least I’ve never heard of someone getting the details explained to them when receiving the ring. So if he never said it was real, how did he lie?

     

    My ring is real, I ordered it myself although he paid for it. But in all honesty, I was looking at every type of ring I could. From real to CZ sterling silver to platinum. I’m a bargain shopper and as long as I like the ring, and my finger doesn’t turn green from it, I see no problem in it. So what  if I couldn’t sell it at a pawn shop for hundreds/thousands of dollars, I never plan to sell it anyways, even if I eventually upgrade.

    I personally think that we put way to much into the size and price of the ring and less into the actual appearance and if we personally like it or not.

    But we settled for a white gold 1 cttw black diamond ring and I couldn’t be happier. I doubt I will ever want to “upgrade” it’s my style and that’s what is important to me.

    Post # 9
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    11391 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I would be hurt. I would not be hurt that it was a CZ or some other stone when he called it another one. I would be hurt that he would lie about something so small like that.

    But my ring is completely real & I was there when he bought it. I have worn a CZ ring before but knew it was CZ when we bought it. So again I would only be hurt if he lied.

    Post # 10
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    4520 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    It would upset me that he lied about it. I’d wonder what he thought of me — that I’m some demanding person who will freak out over anything less than a diamond? I’d worry big time about his perception of me and his willingness to lie about something so big. 

    Post # 11
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    2866 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I am probably going to be the odd man out, but I don’t know that I would really care. I mean yes lying is bad, but I just don’t think I could get it up for that. 

    Post # 12
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    2607 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Has my fiance in this scenario also just cheated on me?  Because if so, I have to say the ring would be the least of my worries.

    Post # 13
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    122 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think I would be annoyed if I had been lied to but the ring itself being fake or real isnt important.

    Post # 15
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    8882 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I would be hurt too, but since the relationship would already be over there’s no point causing a scene.

    Although, smacking him with a fish sounds fun!

    Post # 16
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    414 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Depends on why he lied about the ring being fake. If it was because he was embarrassed that he couldnt afford a real ring but wanted to get engaged then I would handle it differently, such as smacking him with a fish. BUT…if he did it because he wanted to go buy himself something instead, like a boat, I’d be pissed and take his CC and buy myself something REALLY nice! 🙂

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