(Closed) What would you do? Awkward situation.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My advice is to stay out of it.  For one, you don’t actually know that it is true that he hits her.  For all you know, it could have happened 1 time, she told your friend and your friend is saying it happens all the time.  Second, his drinking is between him and his girlfriend. It’s not your job to be either of their “saviors”  You cannot save Amy, only she can save herself.   You really need to stay out of it until Amy comes to you personally.

Just want to add – even a seemingly harmless confrontation “you should probably not have another” could embarass and anger him – he will take this out on Amy when he gets home, guaranteed.

Post # 33
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Sunfire:  +100

Post # 34
Hostess
2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I agree — it’s best to just stay out of this whole, stikcy situation.

Post # 36
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6354 posts
Bee Keeper

I’d stay out of it and not become friends with the abusive man. Not rude or anything, just “too busy” to get to know him.

Post # 37
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509 posts
Busy bee

@Sarahbear:  Since when did you become responsible for someone else’s actions? The only one who should be concerned about Jason’s drinking is Jason.  And if his gf doesn’t like his behaviour (seriously…who would?) she is responsible for getting out or getting help.

All you have right now is hearsay, and you can’t make assumptions about its validity.  What if it’s not true? There’s nothing wrong with wanting to help people but, by butting in and making yourself the de facto monitor of others’ behaviour, you’re sending the message that you know better than everyone else.

Post # 38
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6040 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

@Sarahbear:  I would stay out of it. I think its not right at all that this girl told you such personal things about him. Granted I think its a messed up situation but its really not something that should be spread around, especially in a group of coworkers. I do not think its your place to step in in any way. If anything I would say something to your friend that knows him well and just suggest maybe anonymously giving his girlfriend some names of counseling places and let them handle it however they are going to handle it. Beyond that, I do not think you are close enough to the situation to do anything further. Its a tough situation but ultimately not yours to handle.

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