(Closed) What would you do? Can’t decide if I should have a MOH or not…long, as usual

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I say don’t have an Maid/Matron of Honor.  I’m having three bridesmaids, my two sisters and my best friends, and if no one of them takes charge organically I’ll call them and ask each to take point on one thing.  But if you have to choose, go with friend A!  It’s what you want to do, and you can invent a reason for friend B, such as “You’re so good at ___, I want you to do __ for me and not be distracted by the other stuff”.  Just my opinion!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I think you need a Maid/Matron of Honor. The BMs are going to have to walk down the aisle and/or be introduced in a certain order anyways. Someone will have to hold your bouquet. I think you should pick Friend A because you think she’d be best at it.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I don’t think you have to have one.  As for who holds your bouquet, I don’t think that’s enough to warrant having a Maid/Matron of Honor and the potential drama/headache that comes with it.  If you’re worried about how to introduce them/what order to walk down in, just do it alphabetically.  Not that I think anyone would be upset (at least rationally) about whether they walked first or last, but if so, just explain you went the easiest way possible as they are all equally important to you.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor – but FH has a best man. So, I told him I’d just line the ladies up according to the Groomsmen height. Tall girl with tall guy, short girl with short guy. I let them know that they all mean so much to me that I didn’t feel it was fair to single one out. And they were all cool with it.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

One more point- if Friend B is expecting to be your Maid/Matron of Honor and you think she will be upset if she isn’t, it’s probably not going to be much consolation to her that you just decided to pick no-one be to Maid/Matron of Honor. Because you still didn’t pick her.

So you should just do what you want.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

You shouldn’t consider what friend B really wants, you need to consider what YOU want and what will be best for your wedding!  She may be mad at you for a bit or she may just be happy you asked her at all.  Like you said, you weren’t mad when YOU weren’t someone else’s Maid/Matron of Honor because you realized she knew the other girl longer.  I think you already know what you want to do, you’re just afraid to offend someone.  Don’t be!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Honestly, I don’t really understand what a Maid/Matron of Honor does.  Herd the other girls?  I dunno, but I’m not having one, b/c my “bridesmaids” are my siblings, and how do you pick a favorite sibling?!?  I can’t.  Smile 

 

Anyhow, I don’t think it’s necessary to have a Maid/Matron of Honor, especially if it will cause hard feelings.    I think your idea of just asking them to be in charge of certain things would work well. 

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m not having a Maid of Honor, either (even though the boyfriend is having a Best Man).  It just didn’t seem worth any potential drama.

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