(Closed) What would you do????? Ceremony and Reception Gap situation

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What would you do?

    attend both the reception and ceremony

    attend just the reception

  • Post # 31
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    1133 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I must be in the minority, but I would attend both. In our area, it’s almost the normal to have larger gaps.  Our gap will be about 3 hours as well, but it was unavoidable. We have to be off the grounds of our ceremony venue by 3pm, and our reception starts at 5/6.

    Post # 32
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    359 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Ditto with the people who said attend the ceremony!  The ceremony is the most important part of the wedding.  Skipping that and just going to the reception is a great way to say, hey! we’re here the party and that’s it!  As someone who had people who couldn’t make it to both parts of my wedding, I was so happy that people chose to come to the ceremony . . . 

    Post # 33
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    1505 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think it is rude to only go to the reception. It’s 3 hours. You will survive.

    Post # 34
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    1317 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

    I honestly think 3 hours is a bit much…then to spend 4.5-5 hours after is awful.  Normally I’d say it’s a crime not to go to the ceremony but I don’t know if I would do it for someone I didn’t know.  I’d actually decline altogether, or attend just the ceremony and let them know you cannot be at the reception later so that you’re there for the part that matters.

    Post # 35
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    6014 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    That’s enough time to go to a movie…so go to one.  You only live an hour away get online and google it, there could be a museum to check out or some bookstores.  

    Post # 36
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    1668 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

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    californiabride2013:  I don’t think that’s ever acceptable, except in situations where the person absolutely could not get out of work. The most important part of the day is the ceremony. While 3 hours is a long time I am sure there is at least a coffee shop or diner or something you can hang out at. If you guys know other guests I am sure you can tag along. Bring a good book. Or don’t go at all.

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