Post # 1
Hey Bees- This is a two part question-
What would you do in this situation: Fiance and I are collecting current mailing address for our 5/26/12 wedding. Our plan was to collect addresses in September, mail the STD by October 26th and then mail the actual invites by February 26th.
Question 1: Does this make sense- or is it too early to send out STDs/ invites? Is it too late?
Question 2: How many times should we request the addresses? We were just planning on asking once via email or phone (for older relatives) and then sending Save-The-Date Cards and invites to folks that respond. Should we be asking more than once?
Thanks for the etiquette help!
Post # 3
I’m pretty sure most STD’s are to be at the very latest 6 months and the earliest is a year.
As far as the requests, if its someone you really want at your wedding or to make sure they are at least invited, it may be worth the extra effort.( some people are crazy busy, forgetful etc)
Post # 4
Question 1: We sent ours out already. It is a holiday weekend so it’s fine to send the STD’s out early. We had a good response and people were happy to get them as it gave them enough of a nudge to remember to save up for hotels and stuff.
Question 2: We ran into all kinds of issues. We had some that never responded…others took several days and a few required follow up with other family. For others that were late on sending addresses….we sent their STD out late when they actually got it to us. 🙂 People are busy so it does require follow up. Or if you emailed them it might have ended up in Spam so do try again.
Post # 5
@Keisha In Love: I think your timeline for the STD’s is ok. But I think you are planning on sending your invites too early.
Invites are meant to go out 6-8 weeks before the wedding (unless it’s a DW).
Post # 6
We have been attempting to collect addresses for a few months now for both sides of our family. Some people responded immediately and some people we had to collect from other family members, especially since many of our cousins are in college or grad school and move often.
I say rule of thumb, would be to directly ask, if you are able, once or maybe twice and after that try to take alternative routes by asking other people or using whitepages.com
Post # 7
Thanks andielovesj – I didn’t realize that! We will adjust the invite mailing accordingly 🙂
Post # 8
@Keisha In Love:
Q1: STD timeline is fine, but I think the invites are a little early, unless it’s a Destination Wedding.
Q2: Some people you just gotta keep asking 😉