(Closed) What would you do? Collecting addresses for STD/ Invites …

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7291 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m pretty sure most STD’s are to be at the very latest 6 months and the earliest is a year. 

As far as the requests, if its someone you really want at your wedding or to make sure they are at least invited, it may be worth the extra effort.( some people are crazy busy, forgetful etc)


Post # 4
15 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

Date twins!

Question 1: We sent ours out already.  It is a holiday weekend so it’s fine to send the STD’s out early.  We had a good response and people were happy to get them as it gave them enough of a nudge to remember to save up for hotels and stuff.

Question 2: We ran into all kinds of issues.  We had some that never responded…others took several days and a few required follow up with other family.  For others that were late on sending addresses….we sent their STD out late when they actually got it to us.  🙂  People are busy so it does require follow up.  Or if you emailed them it might have ended up in Spam so do try again. 

Post # 5
3267 posts
Sugar bee

@Keisha In Love: I think your timeline for the STD’s is ok.  But I think you are planning on sending your invites too early. 

Invites are meant to go out 6-8 weeks before the wedding (unless it’s a DW).

Post # 6
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We have been attempting to collect addresses for a few months now for both sides of our family. Some people responded immediately and some people we had to collect from other family members, especially since many of our cousins are in college or grad school and move often.

I say rule of thumb, would be to directly ask, if you are able, once or maybe twice and after that try to take alternative routes by asking other people or using whitepages.com

Post # 8
1941 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Keisha In Love:

Q1: STD timeline is fine, but I think the invites are a little early, unless it’s a Destination Wedding.

Q2: Some people you just gotta keep asking 😉

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