Post # 1
I’m a long time lurker, first time poster. This seems like such a great and friendly community overall!
So here’s the story:
My husband and I got married while we were both still in school. He proposed with a CZ (a really high quality one I think), with the intention of replacing it with a diamond at a later anniversary.
Well, fast forward to our 3rd anniversary coming up soon and he went out and bought me a beautiful diamond – F colour and Ideal cut (don’t know the clarity). It’s GORGEOUS.
What’s the problem then?
Well out of curiousity I put it next to my CZ and I honestly cannot tell the difference. Maybe I just don’t have a good eye? I’m so happy to have such a thoughtful husband but I can’t help wondering whether this upgrade is worth it. Am I crazy? The diamond obviously cost a pretty penny. But I know the hubby put a lot of thought and effort into picking this stone. I’m not sure whether to say anything. Not sure if there is a return policy.
Financially we do have some major purchases coming up. But we are in a good place overall – no debt whatsoever.
I also started wondering about the Amora gem, from browsing these threads. It seems like a beautiful alternative, without spending a fortune. But again, hubby has spent time/effort/money on a diamond already – should I say anything at ths point? I also have no idea if amora gems are available in Canada yet (I’m on the west cost)?
Thoughts? What would you do?
Post # 2
If he’s already purchased it, just accept it and enjoy it. Diamonds are expensive, but if it’s your forever stone, I say don’t stress it. I don’t know about your husband, but I know a lot of men pride themselves on providing the perfect gem for their SO and if you show any kind of apprehensiveness, it could upset him..
Post # 3
I’d keep the diamond! But if you are worried about anything ever happening to it maybe get another CZ or amora (I have an amora bc a diamond was out of our price range after I got an amazing band and i FREAKING LOVE IT!) and put it in another ring to wear on vacay or something? I’d definitely keep the diamond, it’ll last longer than any stone
Post # 4
I love my AG :), but to be honest,you should keep the ring.
The diamond is important not because it’s a diamond, but because he put forth thoughts (he remembered he promised you the upgrade kudos!), he put effort (he shopped around for it), and he put time and money on it (as it would have cost more).
I would be accepting and thankful for a thoughtful husband. If and when you’re in doubt, let him know that the gift is ever more meaningful because of the man behind it. 🙂 Share photos when you can!
Post # 5
I say keep the diamond. The CZ will become cloudy over time and not be as durable.
Post # 6
Keep the diamond! Your husband wanted you to have it, so try to stop worrying and enjoy it. It sounds beautiful!
Post # 7
Keep the diamond and enjoy it!! It is not like this is throwing your financial stability out the window and plunging you into debt. Your husband went out of his way to get you a lovely gift. Wear it in good health!
Post # 8
Your husband brought you the diamond and likely put a lot of time and effort into choosing it so I say you should keep it
Post # 9
You could also consider a lab created diamond. They’re cheaper than mined but have the same chemical structure as mined diamonds. They have inclusions, color grades, etc and are graded. One company I’m aware of is Gemesis. If we weren’t using a heirloom stone, I would definitely be getting a lab diamond.
Post # 10
Aww, your hubby is so sweet!! Keep the ring, he got it for you. You can always get Amora RHR:-)
Post # 11
Keep the diamond, he’s bought it now. Its your forever, hubby is lovely for getting it and you guys sound financially secure, Enjoy it for what it is 🙂
Post # 12
Thanks for your input everyone!
I guess I was over-worrying and feeling guilty. I think I will just keep it and appreciate it since it will be my forever stone! My wedding jewellery is my main/only jewellery I wear so I guess it’s okay for us to splurge… just this once…. 🙂 And yes my hubby is incredibly sweet and I don’t want him to feel like he wasted his efforts!