Post # 1
First let me start off by saying that majority of my family are awesome people. We have college graduates, my mommy has a 2 masters and a PHD….
Sadly I have one cousin that never really has gotten herself together. She always blames her problems on others (her dad was never around, her mom worked too much…ect). She has 3 kids, by three differnt men. I have ALWAYS been there for her and her kids. I had my son when i was 19, and i dont know what i would do if i didnt have my family there to support me.
I get a phone call a few days ago that my cousin was once again evicted and needed somewhere to stay, my whole family has washed thier hands of her…except me. So i tell her to bring her kids over and stay with us for a while. Well, this weekend we had DS birthday party and a bunch of wedding things to do so she was in our home ALOT of the time alone.
Today i get an email saying that i had several checks that bounced….checks that i didnt write! First of all I STALK my bank account, we are paying for our wedding on our own so we buget every single penny. I FREAK OUT, call Chase to try and figure out what is going on! The checks are not even in my writing…further more they are all for stores like babies R us, walmart, places where i dont really shop at. AND I NEVER WRITE CHECKS!!! so Fiance and i are trying to figure out what is going on…meanwhile im calling and calling my cousin to see if she can find my checks books in the house…she is not answering.
Finally she sends me a text and it says “I’m sorry…please dont be mad, and please dont call the police”
This girl knows i would do anything…ANYTHING for her and those kids! She worte $750 in checks…my account is negavtive right now!!! and i cant get my money back unless i file a police report against her!
So, im stuck, if i call the police she goes to jail, loses her kids…who else knows what could happen…but if i dont…im out ALOT OF MONEY. Help me bees…PLEASE…what do i do??? What would you do?
Post # 78
Good for you for filing with the PD. Man, sometimes people need real consequences.
Post # 79
First, I’m so sorry this happened to you! I imagine the betrayal is heartbreaking.
Second, you’re doing the right thing by reporting her. I would definitely search my entire house to make sure she didn’t steal anything else. You are honestly going to do her a favor in the long run by reporting her.
Many prayers for you in this difficult time!
Post # 80
I am so sorry she did that to you guys! I am livid for you! You worked hard for that money and for her to take advantage of you and STEAL it is excusable. I’m happy you decided to file the report, sometimes the right decisions are really hard to carry out. You are doing the right thing!
Post # 81
My mom and aunt are discussing as we speak…they will prob go with my aunt (they’re grandma) until further notice…
excuse my language but this is just a shitty situation…. Anyway…im off work…headed to the station. i will keep everyone posted. thanks agin for all the support!
Post # 82
Im glad your bank had your back on this and noticed weird things happening as @atalante:
said,great catch by them. Im also glad you decided to file a report,not only will it make her stand up to consequences,but it also secures you and your Fiance lives financially wise. She obvioulsy wasnt thinking about your family when she had a big smile on her face walking out with $700 worth of stuff.All I can say is that this must be the worst kind of betrayal,from a family member too! Again, just re-check over evey tiny little thing in your home to make sure nothing else is missing;no doubt she knew she had been caught,and sheer desperation might have driven her to take things out of your home. I hope things are sorted out qucikly and stress free for you,and keep us updated!
Post # 83
good luck, again! keep us posted, it really sucks but know that you’ve got all of us supporting you!
Post # 84
Call the police and press charges. She will never learn and you letting her off the hook is just enabling her.
Post # 85
Good for you for pressing charges and PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE check your home everything in it if she went threw your home enough to find those checks I really doubt the only other thing she took was a box of tampons.
Post # 86
@MrsStrawberry24: I would call the cops. Plain and simple, she stole from you and didn’t ask. If she would’ve asked, you could have given to her the $$$ freely. You just don’t do that to ppl let alone family. I do understand that you’re concerned about her children but she made the choice to steal $$$$. I know its hard but its time for her to take responsibility for her poor choices.
I know it may seem a hard stance but I’ve seen it happen in our family as well as. Ppl were upset how the theft were handle but life does go on.
Post # 87
Reading your post about your cousin stealing your checkbook and writing $750 in checks brought back memories. My brother took advantage of me when I opened my home to him for 8 months. For half of the time he didn’t pay rent, an amount we agreed on plus he stole $ from me. When I finally confronted him I asked him why he took advantage of me, he said “You were to nice”? WTF? Never in my wildest dreams did I think flesh and blood could do this but it happened. Our reltionship has been strained because of this.
If you’ve been a victim of theft from a stranger, it hurts. When it’s a family member it hurts deeper. You’ve opened your home and your heart to your cousin and she took advantage of your goodness. She obviously was searching for something of value to steal and she wasn’t thinking about how good you were to her, she only thought of her needs which is a selfish act. I understand your concern for the children and hopefully a family member can care for them. She should be responsible for her actions. What is that teaching her children if she’s not held accountable? I hope you do file a police report on her and she gets a wake up call.
Please keep us up to date. God bless.
Post # 88
you have done the right thing and are very brave! This is the best thing you could have done for the kids.
Good luck and keep us posted!
maybe this is me just being praniod but your Ering/wedding rings/jewlery..you’re wearing them right? They’re not missing??
Post # 89
ETA: Glad you went ahead and filed the police report. It really hurts to be taken advantage of by your own family.
Post # 90
are you talking about after her cousin STOLE from her or in a hypothetical situation where her cousin hadn’t COMPLETELY violated her trust and privacy by going on a shopping spree on her dime? why not pose it as this, it’d be more apt: would you have spent $750 on her for a shopping spree around town? If yes — find a way for her to work it off or pay you back with interest. If not, file the police report. the latter is being done as we type, so it’s really moot.
Post # 91
Um, I don’t understand.
I was being hypothetical. Obviously the OP would not bail someone out of jail that she put there!