(Closed) What would you do (family member stole from me)

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 78
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Good for you for filing with the PD. Man, sometimes people need real consequences.

Post # 79
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Helper bee

First, I’m so sorry this happened to you!  I imagine the betrayal is heartbreaking.  

 

Second, you’re doing the right thing by reporting her.  I would definitely search my entire house to make sure she didn’t steal anything else.  You are honestly going to do her a favor in the long run by reporting her.

 

Many prayers for you in this difficult time!

Post # 80
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

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@MrsStrawberry24:I am so sorry she did that to you guys! I am livid for you! You worked hard for that money and for her to take advantage of you and STEAL it is excusable. I’m happy you decided to file the report, sometimes the right decisions are really hard to carry out. You are doing the right thing!

Post # 82
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Im glad your bank had your back on this and noticed weird things happening as

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@atalante: said,great catch by them. Im also glad you decided to file a report,not only will it make her stand up to consequences,but it also secures you and your Fiance lives financially wise. She obvioulsy wasnt thinking about your family when she had a big smile on her face walking out with $700 worth of stuff.All I can say is that this must be the worst kind of betrayal,from a family member too! Again, just re-check over evey tiny little thing in your home to make sure nothing else is missing;no doubt she knew she had been caught,and sheer desperation might have driven her to take things out of your home. I hope things are sorted out qucikly and stress free for you,and keep us updated!

Post # 83
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@MrsStrawberry24: good luck, again! keep us posted, it really sucks but know that you’ve got all of us supporting you!

Post # 84
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Worker bee

Call the police and press charges.  She will never learn and you letting her off the hook is just enabling her.

Post # 85
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Good for you for pressing charges and PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE check your home everything in it if she went threw your home enough to find those checks I really doubt the only other thing she took was a box of tampons.

Post # 86
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@MrsStrawberry24:  I would call the cops.  Plain and simple, she stole from you and didn’t ask.  If she would’ve asked, you could have given to her the $$$ freely.  You just don’t do that to ppl let alone family.  I do understand that you’re concerned about her children but she made the choice to steal $$$$.  I know its hard but its time for her to take responsibility for her poor choices.

I know it may seem a hard stance but I’ve seen it happen in our family as well as.  Ppl were upset how the theft were handle but life does go on.

Post # 87
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Reading your post about your cousin stealing your checkbook and writing $750 in checks brought back memories. My brother took advantage of me when I opened my home to him for 8 months. For half of the time he didn’t pay rent, an amount we agreed on plus he stole $ from me. When I finally confronted him I asked him why he took advantage of me, he said “You were to nice”? WTF? Never in my wildest dreams did I think flesh and blood could do this but it happened. Our reltionship has been strained because of this.

If you’ve been a victim of theft from a stranger, it hurts. When it’s a family member it hurts deeper. You’ve opened your home and your heart to your cousin and she took advantage of your goodness. She obviously was searching for something of value to steal and she wasn’t thinking about how good you were to her, she only thought of her needs which is a selfish act. I understand your concern for the children and hopefully a family member can care for them. She should be responsible for her actions. What is that teaching her children if she’s not held accountable? I hope you do file a police report on her and she gets a wake up call.

Please keep us up to date. God bless.

Post # 88
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

you have done the right thing and are very brave! This is the best thing you could have done for the kids.

Good luck and keep us posted!

 

maybe this is me just being praniod but your Ering/wedding rings/jewlery..you’re wearing them right? They’re not missing??

Post # 89
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@MrsStrawberry24:

ETA: Glad you went ahead and filed the police report.  It really hurts to be taken advantage of by your own family.

Post # 90
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@PasteMoo: are you talking about after her cousin STOLE from her or in a hypothetical situation where her cousin hadn’t COMPLETELY violated her trust and privacy by going on a shopping spree on her dime? why not pose it as this, it’d be more apt: would you have spent $750 on her for a shopping spree around town? If yes — find a way for her to work it off or pay you back with interest. If not, file the police report. the latter is being done as we type, so it’s really moot.

Post # 91
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@elliestan:Um, I don’t understand.

I was being hypothetical. Obviously the OP would not bail someone out of jail that she put there!

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