(Closed) What would you do (family member stole from me)

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 17
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747 posts
Busy bee

I’m sorry, but texting her that you will not call the police is a mistake. This will only guarantee that she will NOT give you the money back. You should call the police and do everything you can to make sure her kids are OK and have someone to teach them respect and integrity in their lives.

Post # 17
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2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I would not be asking this question. She’d be in jail. It doesn’t sound like she really has intentions to work for anything, so I’d probably never see that money again. There’s a reason nobody else would take her in…and now there’s a reason you’ll never take her in again. I’m enraged for you.

Post # 18
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276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@pinky44: B of A said the same thing to me when some checker at Walmart apperenly worte down my credit card info and used it to buy $500 of stuff.

I had a purchase of a bunch of electronics that I DIDNT do. They said I had to file a police report to ge my money back,

They found out the checker was writing down my info instead of price checking something (caught her on the camera)

 

Post # 19
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426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Unbelievable… I hope you’re not going to be lax with her this time. She needs to grow up and pay for her actions.

Post # 20
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9028 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Can you just say the check book was stolen and you dont know who took it?

If not then you should just file the police report like pp said, she has to understand htat actions have consequences. you get charged for the bounced checks, plus the actual amount that she got away with. That is the most inconsiderate thing she could ever do. I know she is family but she should have thought of that before trying to take advantage of you.

Post # 20
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491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I agree with @julies1949:… maybe this will be a wake up call for her to get her life together. I know it’s hard but it sounds like she needs some tough love!

Post # 20
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14965 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

 What could she have possibly NEEEEEDED for $700!?!  If she needed a little food or some clothes of the kids at the very moment, that could maybe be topped off at $100??  And she could have ASKED for a loan?  Whatever she bought she can return.  I would tell her she can return whatever she bought and give you back the money or you will file a police report to get the money back.

Post # 21
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@pinky44: Banks will help but a police report has to be filed. They’re not just going to credit back all of this money and not get to the bottom of it. 

I used to work in banking and I dealt with it all the time. We had an old woman come in because her son cleaned out her bank account. She was on a fixed income and that was all the money that she had. It was really sad and I felt terrible for her. We couldn’t do anything unless she filed a police report so she had to decide between turning her son in and getting all of her money back or dealing with it on her own and probably never seeing a penny again. She ended up turning him in after she couldn’t come up with the money to pay her bills. I can only imagine what a tough decision that was for her but I think she made the right one. People like the OP’s cousin and this guy will never learn until they’re forced to face the consequences of their actions. 

Post # 22
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I don’t even know what I would do, but I have been in a situation before where someone was writing checks in my name. Bad checks, since I was at the time a broke college student. My credit was practically destroyed for awhile and there are still places I can’t write checks at 7 years later. It’s a nightmare. I never did find out who did it to me. If it was family? Wow, I don’t know what I’d do.

Sad to say, people do desperate things when the chips are down, but to put herself in that situation when she has 3 kids to care for? I hate to say it but jail might be the wakeup call she needs. How did she even plan to get away with this?

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m sorry to say this but she is just using you and walking all over your kindness.

You were incredibly generous in opening your home to her and she in turn steals and lies from you. Now she’s disappeared and isn’t returning calls? That is not the way a responsible parent or adult behaves.

I would file the police report, get your money back and never trust her again. Enough is enough.

Post # 23
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491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I agree with @julies1949:… maybe this will be a wake up call for her to get her life together. I know it’s hard but it sounds like she needs some tough love!

Also, it’s not a felony (in my state at least) unless it’s over $500 at one specific store. If you said she did it multiple places, then it’d just be a misdemeanor. Either way, she needs to face the consequences and hopefully it will be what it takes to set her straight.

Post # 24
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1927 posts
Buzzing bee

@MrsStrawberry24:  You need to file a police report. Whatever the punishment is she earned it. @julies1949: is completely right in saying she will never learn until she has real consequences.  I highly doubt she would completely lose custody of her kids for check fraud.  But honestly, if she did, it probably wouldn’t be the worst thing for those kids.  They need adults in their life who can care and provide for them.

Post # 25
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591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@MrsStrawberry24: I think the amount stolen has to be over $1000 for it to be a felony. This might be the wake-up call she needs. I understand the whole saving hardcore for the wedding deal and I am furious and hurt for you!

Post # 26
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726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

As hard as it would be, I’d turn this person in. It obviously wasn’t too hard for her to steal from you.

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