Post # 102
She isn’t going to pay you back. I know she’s your cousin and you love her, but sometimes people we love take advantage of our giving nature. You need to file that report. She needs to know there are consequences for her actions.
Post # 103
Any update? How’d it go at the station? Any word from your cousin?
I’m really sorry for this situation you are in.
Post # 104
honestly, it sounds like she’s an unfit role model for these children, and they SHOULD be taken away from her. what kind of a childhood is it being shuffled around from couch to couch while your mother steals?
Post # 105
I’m glad you decided to file the police report. She needs to learn that this is unacceptable. I hope it goes well and the kids are okay!
Post # 106
I would file a police report. It sucks. She will be angry. But I think it will be a wake up call and in the end, when she turns things around for herself she most likely won’t be mad anymore. I think not filing the police report you will be enabling her. If she doesn’t have a prevoius record she’ll most likley just be mandated by the court to repay your money plus fees etc. Most banks will keep charging you anywhere form $25-35 per day for the negative balances, and with each debit for a fee they can attach another over draw fee, its a vicious cycle. Plus no bank will give your money back without filing a police report. Have you reached out to your family? what do they think you should do?
Post # 107
If you read the thread, OP has decided to file a report and has contacted her family including her fiance’s uncle who is a lawyer.
Post # 108
hoping for an update. It’s a bad situation but shes handling wonderfully
Post # 109
Let us know how things go!
Post # 110
I hate to say it, but filing a police report is likely the best thing to do. Given her situation, she likely won’t go to jail. Community service. Sometimes lessons are best learnt the hard way.
It is great of you to be there for your cousin. If she stops talking to you over this, she was the one who asked for it. I honestly hate people like that. Don’t bite the hand that feeds!
Post # 111
Let us know how it goes. I’m sorry you had to go through this. I think the decision to go to the police is right, like PPs have said, some people need to hit rock bottom. Hopefully this is it for her and she can turn it around for her own sake and the sake of her kids.
Post # 112
Didn’t read all the responses but cant see return what she bought?
Post # 113
HI!! everyone..sorry for the last response…today was been NUTS!!! so…quick update!!
We went to the police dept last night and filed a report. Our attorny was present…i had ever copy of the checks that chase was able to give me. We filed (i think the charges were grand larceny, theft…and some other things). I was very upset but i had my whole family (and all of you amazing bees) behind me. So we went home last night feeling a little better. We checked the house and the only thing missing was the check book and the tampons…
This morning i woke up with a missed call from the bank…and wouldnt you know……. she had wrote more checks!!
YES!!!!!! Her total was now at almost $1200…thank God i filed because now it is no longer in my hands. We still hadnt heard from her, so i went down to the police station, filed another report….this awesome (and sexy) detective had me call her from a blocked number and she picked up!!! So they were able to get a general idea of where she was hiding out at because her phone pinged of a tower!!!
Long story short….
The found her…in a hotel, that she a had gotten with a stolen credit card, with some guy…and the 3 kids!!!
She was arrested…she has no bond now because in the hotel ,i guess, they found a stolen credit card and some drugs (they couldnt give me specifics). they also hit her with child endangerment.
So she is in jail….chase is hopefully going to give me back the $700 im out…but the kids…..
are in foster care. The wont let my aunt get them until we go before a judge tomorrow. Im taking off work to go up there with my mom and aunt tomorrow because i kinda feel like this is my fault. I know its stupid, but if i hadnt have let her stay there, then she wouldnt have taken my checks…wouldnt be in jail and the kids would be with there mommy.
I just want to thank every one once again for there support and kind words. Please just send prayers up for my little cousin an my entire family and we go through this.
Post # 114
It is definitely not your fault the kids are in foster care…it’s hers! She is the one who stole, not you!
Post # 115
OMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMG!!!!!!!!! I’m so glad you went last night. I CANNOT BELIEVE the audacity, holy shit!!! drugs in the room she got with some stranger dude and her KIDS!? thank God you turned her in. Seriously. thanks for the update!!!
Post # 116
here is the thing….i dont think this girl did drugs!!!!! i really think it was the guys….the police arent giving me any details. The detective said all he could say was that my cousin told him to tell me that she “was sorry”.
we will be able to find out what she purchased tomorrow from walmart…. she cant return it because 1..she is in jail and 2. the police are prob going to use it as evidence.