(Closed) What would you do? Friend’s FI is cheating. Would you say something?

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 46
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Good, you made the right decision.  And if your conversation was long enough for all that information, it sounds like she isn’t going to hold it against you, which is also wonderful news.  You can be a real rock for her when she wants the help.  

Post # 47
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3090 posts
Sugar bee

OF COURSE you tell her….

I would be PISSED if my friend didn’t tell me this information.

Post # 48
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643 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Good for you for telling her!! She needs to know! What a douche!!!

Post # 49
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1325 posts
Bumble bee

Found an engaged guy I knew on a dating site once, looking for “casual sex”.

I told my best friend who told her husband because he was the guy’s best friend. I knew that the girl knew what her guy was like and wouldn’t say anything so it would just hurt her. My friend’s husband confronted the guy and told him to get his act together. I couldn’t face telling this girl myself, and it wasn’t ambiguous what he was doing because I knew them both…

Post # 50
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Busy bee

smile111:  you are a great friend. Good for you for doing the right thing being put in that really tough situation! I hope your friend gets through this ok. 

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

Go to the Fiance and lay it all out for him. Ask him “what are you going to do about this, and what do you think I should do about it? What do you think I want to do about it?”

She is pregnant, so she shouldn’t be unduly upset or make any rash decisions right now.

If he is a hardcore cheater, or intends to break off the engagement, he has to figure it out NOW. Same for if it were a one-time thing, and he really wants to get married.

Let him know he has to fix it, whether he comes clean with his Fiance or not, and let him know you are watching him.

Post # 52
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I am assuming that he didn’t see u? Is that right?!

Regardless, she HAS to know, especially if a baby could be involved into this… Would you want to know?! I sure as shit would! Be a good friend and tell her! U owe him ZERO! Keep us updated and good luck Bee. 

Post # 53
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’m so glad u told her! You’re a good friend. Fuck that guy! I hope she leaves his ass and she finds someone she deserves, not some douchebag cheater! 

Post # 54
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Buzzing bee

Should’ve read to the end of the thread before commenting–good job for telling.

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