(Closed) What would you do if…

posted 6 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Is it objectively horrible, or just something you in particular hate?

By that, I mean, is it a fairly normal name of a girl that bullied you in grade school or something, or is it like Wilideenema or Bertha or Tonsil? (No offense to any bees who might actually have those names……..)

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Maybe try to compromise by naming the daughter the mom’s middle name? Or keep the mom’s name officially but agree on a nickname we both like and address her by the nickname.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would probably give the name I hate as the middle name that way I still get to pick one of the names that I like. Or even make the name that I like as the middle name and call the baby by that name instead of the name I don’t like.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I don’t mean to sound rude but if my body is carrying the sucker for nine months, I get veto power over the name.  But I do think both parents should get a say in the name so I would make it the middle name.

Post # 8
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508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@EffieTrinket:  Is it objectively horrible, or just something you in particular hate?

 
This would make a difference, I think. If it’s just a name that isn’t your cup’a tea (not like an honestly horrid name) I would compromise.  My mother died last year and I’d like to honor with her by incorporating her name into our baby’s name (if we have a girl).  It’s name FI’s favorite, so we’re going to use it as a middle name.

Post # 9
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8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would say a compimise. When I had my child, I wanted the name Jaylynn, while my [now ex] boyfriend wanted Jasmine. We comprimsed with JazzLynn.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Regina Phalange:  This. That’s what middle names are for, right? 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@EffieTrinket:  Someones name is actually tonsil? LOL

I’d just tell him, flat out.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@AlwaysSunny:  haha that’s what I thought too. 

 

 

I’d ask why he’d always want to be reminded that his mother isn’t there anymore? I think it’d just be depressing. My mom goes by “Betsy” (although her name is Elisabeth, as is my middle name), and I would NEVER be able to name my child Betsy or Elisabeth. Maybe Elisabeth as a middle name, because she didn’t go by it, and it’s my middle name, but definitely not a first name. I’d be crushed every time I heard it until I didn’t associate it with my mom anymore, which I especially dislike the thought of.

 

And I’d also tell him I really don’t like the actual name, honestly. = Why should one of us hate the name of the kid? It’s not fair to the person who hates the  name, no matter the reason.

 

Plus, quite frankly, the other person’s mom isn’t going to live forever. I think it’s unfair to honor the one who has passed already by something so permanent as a name, and the other mother has no “commemoration” so significant. 

 

Maybe he could have more of a say in the name it if he did the carrying-for-9-months and birthing of it 😉 lol

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