(Closed) What would you do if an Ex showed up at your wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What would you do if an ex showed up at the wedding
    Ask him/her to leave : (26 votes)
    62 %
    Don't do anything : (10 votes)
    24 %
    Other : (6 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    466 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    If one of my exes showed up at my wedding (which would be really weird and random) I would probably just laugh in his face and say, “I’m so glad we broke up!  I’m married to my true love and am the happiest woman in the world!”

    If one of FI’s exes showed up, I’d probably do the same thing.  Laughing

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I would NOT allow my FI’s ex to stay. She tried to break us up for the first year we were together, and then again after we got engaged.

    My Fiance has never had any contact with my exes, so he probably wouldn’t care, but I would prefer they stay away too. 🙂

    Post # 5
    Member
    2205 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I only have one serious X, and I know for sure he wouldn’t have showed up at our wedding (even though his brother and sister in law were our wedding photographers!)

    But I think I would have at least said “uh, what are you doing here?” and ask someone else to have him leave.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I too would laugh at any of my exs if they showed up – How random, why would they think coming to my wedding would be a good idea??

    I wouldn’t even be able to pick FI’s ex out of a line up; she was around a bit when we first started hanging out before we were dating, but since then I haven’t seen her in years.

    Edit:: If any of my (or FIs) exs were crazy, stalkery or tried to break us up, I would definitely ask them to leave ASAP.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m actually kinda worried about this.I have a crazy stalker ex that is still “in love with me”. Ew.

    Post # 8
    Hostess
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Eeek Jamiemichelle, that’s no good!

    Post # 9
    Member
    4024 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If my ex that is my sons dad showed up, I would walk over to him and tell him to leave. I know that I probably wouldn’t have to though becuase I’m sure there would be like 500 people stopping him and making him leave before I even saw him! (ok, not really 500 becuase our wedding is only 150 people, but you get the idea!)

    Post # 10
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    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    This is a funny question bc my ex-FIANCE asked to come to my wedding. He said he wants to come because lots of his friends are there as well (4 people!!!) His best friends wife is my Maid/Matron of Honor…but seriously…i couldnt believe he had the balls to ask. I am a little worried he will just show up…caue he said its “JUST a wedding” blah!!!!

    Its bad enough my FH ONLY ex-gf married one of his best friends and she is coming to the wedding…never mind haveing my ex show up…grrrrrr

    Post # 11
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    136 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    If the one serious ex I have showed up, I’d think it was weird and a little stalker-y, but I’d introduce him to my Fiance, then ignore him for the rest of the night, and sort of hope he’d go away.  He’s not the kind that would fly halfway across the country to wedding crash, though, so I can’t even really see it happening.

    FI’s ex-fiance actually probably WILL be at the wedding… They’ve known each other for 15 years and have a daughter together, so while a small part of me would really prefer not to have to see her face, for the most part I don’t really care.  If Fiance wants her (and her husband and their two kids) there, then that’s fine with me.

    If any of the other of his exes (and there are quite a few) showed up uninvited, I don’t think I’d even really have to deal with it… Between Future Mother-In-Law, Future Sister-In-Law, and the best man, I’m sure plenty of people would encourage her to leave, lol! 

    Post # 12
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    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I think it depends on what sort of relationship you had with the ex.  I actually don’t have any ex’s at all (FI is my first major relationship, though I had the occasional date before…) but I did have a creepy stalker who thought he and I were in a relationship, and he would be kicked out as soon as the police arrived (whom I would call immediately upon seeing him).  My Fiance has a minor ex, relationship only lasted a month or so, and she was a total loon.  If she showed up she would be asked to leave politely but firmly. 

    Post # 13
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    612 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I don’t care. If any of them showed up and the Fiance was upset about it, then I would have someone ask them to leave. Otherwise I would just ignore them.

    If any of the FI’s ex’s showed up he would be PISSED and defnitely have someone take care of them. Again, I wouldn’t really care and just ignore them. 🙂

    Post # 14
    Member
    1032 posts
    Bumble bee

    my ex-fiance not only called me after I told him I no longer wanted to speak to him, but he ASKED to come when we get married! (its a small town and everyone knows we’re serious and he’s going to pop the question soon… so excited!!) I would definitely ask him to leave if he showed, we did not end amicably, and if an ex of his showed i know he’s ask her to leave as well.

    Post # 15
    Member
    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would laugh!

    Most of my exes were never ‘serious’ and are still friends/on friendly terms.

    There is one though that is a bit, eh.. but I was actually joking with my Maid/Matron of Honor about this the other day, as he’s a chronic depression sufferer & has been dealing with agorophobia for the past xxx months, I really don’t think I have to worry about it! But we did both have a good laugh over how ridiculously awkward it would be for this individual to show up (his parents STILL invite me to go golfing with them almost 6 years after splitting with their son–everything with these people is just weird!)

    If my FH’s ex showed up I know HE would mind, but I wouldn’t as she and I were actually friends before I met my FH (I met her long after she and my FH split). That being said, knowing that he dislikes my one ex as much if not more than he dislikes his, they would likely be politely asked to leave if there was an issue, but due to our super mellow attitudes, I doubt there would be an issue unless the exes made one.

    However, it is VERY unlikely that any of this would happen, if it did it would be like bizzarro world.

    Post # 16
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    3871 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it would depend on whether I like or disklike the ex or not.  If I did and it bothered me, I would probably ask one of my bridesmaids or groomsmen to ask him to leave. 

    If it doesn’t bother me, then who cares.  I’m still friends with my ex…. well on facebook.  We don’t talk anymore but if I were to see him, I would still say hi to him.

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