Post # 1
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Helper bee
Hey what would you do if the bride wants to drop one of the groomsmen because he is struggling with depression and weight issues and is not as good looking as the groom or other groomsmen. In other words, he will ruin the photos in her opinion. She has told the groom to get rid of this groomsman but the groom feels guilty because the guy has always been there for him and is even helping foot some of the wedding costs. Should the groom tell him the truth? Should the groom and bride try to give hints for this guy to drop out? The bride doesn’t think airbrushing the guy will work (I think this is absolutely crazy and horrible)
The sad thing is this guy is the one who has been a good friend, helps out the most with the wedding and has lived kind of a bad life – his dad left him, he was abused as a child and comes from a poor background. He fights depression because he has nightmares about being abused and was the victim of a horrible crime so he limps. Ideas???
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
Besides dumping the bride?
Post # 3
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Busy bee
karen12 : Pretty much! Looks like bride is showing her true colours – better now than after the wedding. There’s still time!!
Yeah, it’s not the bride’s decision. Tough luck for the terrible and superficial bride.
Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
Why is the groom marrying such a horrible person. Red flags all over.
Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
ITA. If the groom is smart he’ll think twice about marrying her.
Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
Dump her for being a horrible, piece of shit person.
There’s no way this is real.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
I hope this isn’t real. All I can say is if my fiance asked me to kick a friend out of my bridal party for struggling with depression and ruining some vision he had of what my friends should look like, the wedding would be off so fast it would make his head spin.
Are you the groom? A friend of the bride? If you are, you need to talk some decency into her ASAP. Or you know, find a bride who isn’t a terrible human.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
This is like that one that’s been floating around the internet in the last week where the MOB wanted to boot the Maid/Matron of Honor because she had a limp and the MOB thought it would ruin the ceremony. Don’t dump the groomsman, dump the bride.
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
Tell the bride there is no program that can edit out her horrific personality so there will be no wedding. Problem solved.
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
The bride is awful and I can’t believe she would be so selfish
Post # 11
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Honey bee
Chris4 : far out….I’d reconsider my choice in mate before I’d ever kick out a good friend for the reasons listed.
The bride sounds awful. Ironically, she is worried about ugliness but she hasn’t realised the ‘ugliest’ person in her photos will be her…
Post # 12
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Honey bee
I’d dump the bride. I’m quite certain we don’t share the same values and I would never want to share my life with someone so superficial and disloyal.
Post # 13
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Helper bee
My theory is groomsmen are not brides thing to worry about n bridesmaids are not grooms things to worry about, in other words – don’t be controlling n manipulative!
But why are we even discussing this- there is a bigger problem-The Bride!!! if the wedding is still taking place!
Post # 14
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Busy bee
She is awful and so does he for not defending his friends!
Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
Dump the bride, take the groomsman on the honeymoon instead!