- 3 years ago
I feel like I brought this upon myself, which is why I am wondering how YOU would act in my position, having made the bad decision of replying to an ex in the first place.
I have a narcissist of an ex, whose #1 concern in life is himself and his own well being. He reached out to me a few weeks ago asking me for some work related advice. I don’t know why and what planet I was on but I thought OK, won’t hurt. We’re on good terms so I’ll listen and give him tips here and there since we work in the same industry.
“A little bit of my time” turned into an hour long convo, which I had to cut short because I was getting annoyed how everything was about him and his problems at work and considering every time he has reached out to me since I moved out of his house has been all about him, I began to get a bad feeling like I was being used. I mmmaaayyyyy have told him I’d send a file over to him as a follow up, not really intending to…
Fast forward a week – I haven’t sent a follow up or anything because I’ve just been feeling like he’s not even a friend to me any more, unless he really needs something and decides to show up in my life. Well, he sends me a text asking for the file I said I’d send to him last time we spoke.
The dilemma is – I really don’t want to. Big part of it is, I do feel like being a bitch because I don’t want to be used for something I worked hard for (my file) and don’t want to share it with someone I don’t care about. Also, I honestly don’t want to help him succeed. If he does, cool. But I have nothing to gain out of it except for my skills being leeched out of me.
What’s the mature person thing to do? I want to just ignore him and never respond again lol. But I’ve also been told to always be kind and leave doors open…