What would you do if you have a self serving ex?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
929 posts
Busy bee

Tell him the truth. After your conversation, you decided it best for yourself to not communicate with him and will not be sending him anything futher.

Post # 4
9588 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

MadamMiko :  I like the direct approach above.

If you want to be more politic about it.. just say “sorry–I spoke too soon when I said I’d send it over.  I’m sorry, but I’ve since realized I can’t do that.  Best of luck, all the same!”

You can claim you don’t have it, it has sensitive information, or (my favorite) decline to explain yourself.

Post # 5
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

“oh hey sorry, I looked but can’t find the file! Good luck with everything though.”

And then I would leave the conversation as is and stop talking to him. You’ve got to have a strong sense of self respect and boundaries atound narcissists or they walk all over you and use you.

Post # 6
258 posts
Helper bee

Your first mistake was being on good terms with a narcissistic ex. This is not providing any value to your life. Cut contact. You don’t need this. 

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