(Closed) What would you do if you were a guest at my wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: If you were a guest at my wedding....
    I would be cool with it! Nothing wrong with an hour and 45 minutes! I'd just drive up and wait : (28 votes)
    15 %
    That's a huge gap, what am I supposed to do? : (99 votes)
    53 %
    I'll just go home and change into my reception outfit : (14 votes)
    8 %
    I would only go to the reception hall : (36 votes)
    19 %
    I'd go to the ceremony, and to the relatives house to watch you take pictures, and then head up! : (9 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m confused- why can’t guests enjoy cocktail hour while you’re taking photos?

    ETA: I don’t like first looks either, but would you consider doing pre-wedding Bridesmaid or Best Man plus bride pics and separate pre-wedding Groomsmen plus groom pics to cut down on your picture time. We did this, and I think our post wedding portraits only took about 30-45 minutes.

    Post # 4
    3968 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Plus, I hope people can get to your ceremony. 4 PM is early.

    Post # 6
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

    Hmmm, that is kind of an awkward gap and it’s during rush hour on a Friday which makes me a little nervous. What are the guests suppose to do??

    (I’m from Harrison BTW! :D)

    Post # 9
    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’d go to the reception only. I wouldn’t feel comfortable going to a family hosted champagne toast while I was waiting (I’ve seen this a couple times on four weddings and it never seems to work out).

    Post # 10
    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Your guest will get to your reception venue at 5:15, but cocktail hour isn’t until 7? Thats an almost 2 hours of nothing to do & nothing to drink/eat. Sorry, but you should start the cocktail hour as soon as guests arrive.

    Post # 11
    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Is there something else for guests to do?  Is there a bar at the reception they can hang out at, a bar nearby where they can grab a drink? Is the hotel nearby or in between or are you providing a shuttle from/to the hotel they’d have to get to?

    Honestly, I get annoyed at weddings with gaps when there’s nothing logical to do in between. Weddings with gaps don’t automatically annoy me (we have one), but when there’s nothing to do in between and you’re just left to your own devices, it kinda sucks, especially if you’re from out of town or don’t know the area. 

    I think if you’re going to have a gap, you need to provide a viable something to do for your guests, even if that’s just “go back to the hotel, freshen up, and catch the shuttle” or “go to the bar”. 

    Post # 12
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Do you have access to a room, backyard, garden area, etc. where guests could have more like a social?  We’re in the same boat; ceremony ends at 2:30 ish, scheduled cockatil hour isn’t until 4:30.  However, we were able to get into the room early so family and friends can partake in more of a (optional) social to immediately follow the ceremony (drinks provided, but appetizers won’t go out until more like 4:30).  Plus, with receving line after ceremony, drive to reception, check in to hotel for many guests, I think it will be more like 3:30 before they gather up again.  Just a suggestion. 

    Post # 13
    802 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @BellaDee:  That sounds kind of selfish. “we didn’t want to miss that” but you expect people to sit around for 2 hours not doing shit waiting on you to get there to START cocktail hour? 

    I don’t understand your timeline. You are inviting guests to a family members house to watch you take pictures? …

    What are your guests supposed to be doing at the reception? I would go home & stay there. That is rude. IMO. & “go home to change into reception outfit” ? What kind of wedding are you having?

    I’m confused by so much of this.

    Post # 14
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

    @BellaDee:  Well, what I’m saying is that it’s not really a wide enough gap that they can go home in between. Do you have a lot of out of town guests or are they mostly local?

    Post # 15
    3720 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    If I was going to the wedding I would probably go back to the hotel and throw a little pre-cocktail  hour cocktail hour with mutual friends or family. 

    I am someone who does not skip the wedding. I find it rude– you are invited to both, you should show up to both. The wedding is the important part. 

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