Post # 1
So of all the pathetic things we could be fighting about my fiance and I are fighting about…..*drumroll* the headband that I purchashed and plan on wearing. Apparently he doesn’t like headbands and I didn’t know this until after I had bought it and told him about it but I had been avoiding the subject until now. I am in love with it and think it looks amazing and will add a nice touch to my wedding day look. I feel like he is being really pathetic and immature. He says that he will be unhappy on our wedding day and unable to focus on being happy about marrying me if I wear it and also because I apparently don’t care about his opinion. And he says it will change his view on how I look on our wedding day. Why the hell do I want to marry this man again? Kidding…sort of. Anyways, what would you do if you were me? Grin and bear it to make your man happy or do what you want knowing it will make him unhappy on what is supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life?
Post # 3
Well, for SOME reason he has a very stromg opinion about headbands! As weird as that is, and you don’t understand it, I’d not wear it. If it’s going to affect him that adversaly…
Post # 4
I honestly think his comments are hurtful and uncalled for!! Having said that, my Fiance is being a bit of an ass lately, so maybe I’m just being overly sympathetic! As nice as it is that you are trying to make him happy, he should be doing the exact same for you!! It’s a headband for godsake, and if its something that is going to make you feel special on your day, then frankly he should want what you want (within reason), and I think a headband has got to be the easiest thing he could overlook without overlooking you.
Post # 5
I would tell him that I won’t wear it and then be passive aggresive until he changed his mind and told me he’d be ok with it :p
He is being pretty immature, IMO. If it’s such a huge deal, I certainly wouldn’t want him rolling his eyes at you on your wedding day. But at the same time, he’s being kind of a jerk for making such a stance about it in the first place.
So in conclusion: ditch the headband, but don’t be happy about it, and be sure he knows it. It’s my patented method for SO control.
Post # 6
Men don’t know anything about style LOL! You should post a picture of it 🙂 I would probably still wear it. But I do think he is being way too dramatic about it.
Post # 7
Honestly… he sounds like a child. His comments were immature and rude. It sounds like he’s trying to ‘win’ the sitatuon more than anything.
You’re the bride, you should wear what makes YOU feel beautiful. Doesn’t matter what everyone else says. You said you loved your headband…then you should wear it. I’ve rarely heard of a man caring about the headband their gf/wife is wearing…
Perhaps the best way to get through him is to be as immature? Maybe you do something similar about his look for the wedding day. Suggest a haircut you want him to have! (something he’ll be like HECK NO) or make him wear something you know he won’t want.
Maybe then he’ll kinda get how childish he was and back off on the ‘headband’ matter. MEN can be childish sometimes…actually..OFTEN. So sometimes we gotta communicate to them as if they are one. 🙂
Post # 8
I would probably talk to him about. Maybe there is something in his past that has affected him so he has a real dislike for headbands. you never know there could be a hundred reasons such as he was bullied and made to wear one, every girl that has been mean to him wore one etc etc. Relationships are about communication and he has been open and honest with you about his dislike so be open and honest with him in return and let him know it has upset you and you need to understand why he is bothered by it.
Post # 9
@Future_Mrs_Naugle: I would not wear it. I knew there were some things my Darling Husband does not like and I made sure not to have them as part of my wedding look. As a side note, headbands are very in fashion now but are not really a timeless look. While you might think it looks great now it may look dated in years to come.
Post # 10
“Maybe there is something in his past that has affected him so he has a real dislike for headbands.”
Post # 11
There has to be some underlying thing to this. I’ve never known a guy to have versions to a woman’s hair accessories.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I think It depends on how much of the wedding planning he’s had a good say in. If he hasn’t been that involved but feels very strongly about this headband, why not try to find some other hair/veil/decoration and let him win this one? It’s his special day too. If he’s being this bossy about LOTS of issues, then perhaps it’s a good time to stand your ground.
My guy is pretty easy-going but once in a while has a VERy strong (and seemingly random, to me) opinion about something. I usually try to let him have his way since most of the time he’s down for whatever…
Post # 13
I would wear it. He doesn’t get a say on your appearance at your wedding, or later on. Claiming he won’t be happy because it will affect his focus is a horrible thing to tell you. A bride has enough stress worrying about looking pretty with all eyes on her!!
Post # 14
Man. What he said was pretty hurtful. If you wear a headband then he won’t think you look as nice and will be distracted all day and it’ll ruin the wedding for him, essentially? That’s VERY WEIRD and his comments are very MEAN. I don’t even know what to say. This is just a glimpse into your relationship with him, so I don’t have the whole picture. But if he is mean and controlling/manipulative like that regularly, then you should re-think marrying him. But if this is just a one time freak out of his, then maybe you should not wear the headband and pick out something else for your hair… but not tell him what it is before the wedding day so he can’t veto that, too.
Post # 15
Maybe he had an ex or something that always wore headbands and it would remind him of her and who wants that on their wedding day? Who knows, who cares? If he feels that strongly, I’d just nix the headband.
For everyone saying she’s the bride and he gets no say…if he wanted to wear or do something the bride absolutely HATED, wouldn’t you suggest that he compromise? It’s HIS day too.
Post # 16
wow. My Fiance wouldn’t even know what a headband is.
Did you ask him why he feels that way?