(Closed) What would you do if you were me? Rant/vent.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I wear the headband or not?
    Heck yes! : (68 votes)
    42 %
    No, even though it will break your heart. (Kind of) : (94 votes)
    58 %
  • Post # 107
    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Were you planning to wear the headband in a traditional headband way?  Meaning, your hair all goes behind it? One of the PPs pics did a slight variation with a little hair in front, but it still had a traditional headband feel.  I’m guessing that the traditional schoolgirl headband is what he really hates, and there are so many other ways to use a headband for a wedding.

    I’m really embedding mine in my hair.  only about 5 inches of it will show on top of my head, and the sides will disappear into my hair.  My hair will just look like it is down, unrestrained, and curled.  So, a headband doesn’t have to LOOK like a headband, you know?  Maybe he doesn’t know that.  You could show him some non-headband looking wedding hair w/ headbands and see what he thinks about them.

    That said, if he still says no, then just don’t wear it.  It would be one thing if he didn’t like your shoes because he’s really not going to see them very much,  But your headband–is on your head.  Kind of hard for him to ignore when it’s literally in his face all day.  And that’s probably exactly what he’ll think you are communicating to him all day–“IN YOUR FACE!!” PP did make a good point about him having to look at it in all the pictures forever, too.  It’s really just a headband, and this is the kind of unneccessary battle you will most likely need to avoid to have a peaceful married existence.  Not worth going to the mattresses.

    So if you decide you are officially not wearing the headband, and you want to take an extra step to make him feel included, why not show him some different types of headpieces you like and get some input from him?  You could say that you just want to know what he thinks about them, but you will make the decision so it will be a surprise at the wedding.  I know that right now you probably don’t want to hear his opinion, but it would probably mean a lot to him and just clear the tension in general.

    Post # 110
    211 posts
    Helper bee

    Perfect compromise! Yay!

    Post # 111
    1782 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would not wear it – until later on during the reception, maybe. If he is that strong about you not wearing it, I wouldn’t. He must have some fantasy in his head of what you will look like, and the headband may distract from the “you” that he loves so much. Wear the headband – the next day for fun, tease him about it, in a fun way ๐Ÿ™‚ This will be a funny story one day, “Remember that headband I bought right before our wedding….”

    Post # 114
    2902 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    My weirdo of a Fiance has some funny opinions on things he likes and does not like. He is much more fashion oriented than I am so I just find it amusing more than anything. He enjoys looking through my bridal mags and giving his opinion on all they styles. If he hates it then don’t wear it. I’m guessing you may wear headbands in every day life? He probably has always hated them on you but has bitten his tongue as it doesn’t matter. But on your wedding day? He doesn’t want to see it! 

    My Fiance loves rolling up his jeans in the summer, supposedly it’s a good look. I really hate it, so if he wanted to do that on our wedding day? Hells No!! I would put my food down, I’m not marrying that! (I’m only half kidding ;))

    Post # 115
    433 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012



    Men are weird like that, I had an old pair of jeans and my guy had the weirdest averse reaction to them, something about the shape of the pockets :/  so my advice is to ditch the headband because ultimately you want him to look at you and smile on your special day and if you are wearing something he absolutely hates, that’s going to ruin the mood, no?

    I know it’s silly but men can’t be explained sometimes, lol

    Post # 117
    237 posts
    Helper bee

    Wear it! YOU LOOK FREAKIN GORGEOUS (love the dress AND veil). Seriously. I think it totally adds a little extra. Maybe he’s an idiot dude who is thinking giant, thick nerd-girl headband, not beautiful goddess-y headband? A lot of guys can’t envision wedding fashions in their head.

    I literally just asked my fiance about this and he was like “does she mean like an indian (read, native american) headband?”

    Post # 119
    270 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Well, first I would put it on and see what he thinks.  If he doesn’t like it, then I wouldn’t wear it.  the bottom line is that on my wedding day, his opinion is the most important to me.  If he really thinks the headband is ugly, then I wouldn’t wear it.  I mean, you wouldn’t want him to wear something that you think is ugly for your wedding either, even if it makes him happy. (I knew a girl who’s fiance wanted to wear jeans to the wedding because that’s what he was most comfortable in.)

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