What would you do in this Career/Marriage situation?

posted 5 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I wouldn’t recommend getting a degree that sounds like it’s not going to do much for you. Especially if it’s going to be tricky financially. I’d put your efforts into things that will actually advance your career, which is probably going to job experience over a second degree.

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

What are your long term location goals? If this degree is not available in your current area, How would getting this degree in UK benefit your career in your current location? 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@chanellady24:  you can do journalism from anywhere for sure. Where are you located currently? 

he seems keen to support you and potentially experience another country so I’d say go for it. Depending on what he does he might find the job market and salaries not quite what they are where you live now, but this is one of those early 20s experience things that allow you to grow together. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@chanellady24:  oh gosh, I thought you were talking about some major international move. Coming to the UK from Ireland is nothing. If you don’t like it or can’t find the right jobs after your masters it’s not a huge upheaval to go back.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

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@chanellady24:  I would wait until there is more than a stable job, and enough money saved where if we had to leave for a year, and got minimum wage jobs, we would be able to get by. And this is the LAST resort of course. (dipping into savings). Thats of course if I still really wanted to pursue it, with the intention that I would do everything in my power to make it work once I get the degree. 

 

Otherwise, I would do what I can with where I live, and the courses I can take to do something similar that satisfies me, and my SO could keep his job, and we all stay together and happy.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

If he has a stable job, I’d recommend you commuting. I’ve lived apart from my husband for all 8 years of our relationship (well, until covid!) and commuted back for the weekends, because my job field doesn’t allow flexibility. That’s espcially true because your degree is not linked to clear income. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

Not sure why you are getting this degree…

Post # 12
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Busy bee

Nowadays you can get degrees online, have you looked at that option?

Post # 13
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Helper bee

..Go get your masters. Don’t let marriage or the need to “settle down” with your husband stop you from completing your education. You are only in your early 20s…now is the time to complete your education, travel, have fun etc. It’s only for a year. And with flights for as cheap as €20/€30 or less you could be over and back every weekend or 2nd weekend if you wanted. You have your whole life ahead of you to be financially stable. If your fiance really didn’t want to be living apart just because yous would be newly weds then I would even suggest you postpone wedding until after you get your masters. I know many bees here are from cultures where they get married young but here in Ireland the average age of women getting married for the 1st time is 33.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

Im surprised at some of the comments. I think it is a great idea to go to school if you want to. Look, do things now, it won’t get easier down the road and you may regret it. No one wants a life of what ifs. This is the time to travel and explore. 

Have him stay in Ireland. You can visit each other plenty. Many couples are apart for durations this length and longer. 

(in 2013 I wanted to go back to school for library science but was told time and time again “libraries are obsolete.” Well guess what, they’re not, and as of Saturday I’m officially a librarian, with a job, in a library. OP, know that fashion might not make the easiest career pathway, but if it’s something you are interested in, pursue it. Someone needs to be a fashion journalist, might as well be you!)

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I don’t think you should do the degree. If you really want to work in fashion journalism you need internships and a portfolio, not a masters. I’ve been working as a journalist for years and I don’t have a single relevant degree. It’s all about experience.

 

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