(Closed) What would you do in this situation?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

That is a tough one! On the one hand it is YOUR ring, but on the other… getting him to go against his mother could make for some issues.

At the end of the day it seems like he wants you to have the best and maybe he is just concerned that you are only asking for a moissanite because of the expense?

I would just enjoy the ride and accept the lovely gift he has for you 🙂

Post # 5
1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My Fiance thought my e-ring should be a diamond solitaire. I hadn’t planned on that – I said a different stone would be fine and spending less money would be great. But, it was important to Fiance so we did the diamond solitaire. I love it because it’s from him and it’s beautiful. The ring is only partly your choice – it’s something he should be proud to give you.

Post # 6
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park

This sounds like it’s a big deal for him. As the wedding is typically “bride territory”, I’d let him win this battle. You’ll have the same look, and maybe down the line you can talk him into a gemstone right hand ring, so you can have your personality out there too.

Post # 7
2280 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

That’s silly. Diamonds aren’t that great. Have you point blank asked him why it has to be a diamond?

Post # 8
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree that an e-ring should be only partly — if at all — your choice. I’ll also second the idea that brides get weddings, guys get proposals. If he wouldn’t feel proud to get you a diamond alternative, I kinda don’t think you should make him. It sounds like you’re not SUPER against diamonds, just that you think there are other good options out there. So, I would let him do what he will. You’ve given him your input, what he chooses to do with it is sort of out of your hands, and I’d keep it that way if I were you.

Oh, but tell him about Pricescope. 🙂 That site can help you do wonders with a budget to get the most for your $.

Post # 11
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

yeah, you need to talk to him about this. If you really wouldn’t be happy with a diamond, he needs to know that. Deliberately picking out something he knows you don’t want –diamond/cushion/halo–is pretty disrespectful. If you shop TOGETHER (leaving his mom out of it), you may find something you like together.

I wouldn’t be happy with a ring my Mother-In-Law picked out. I’d be livid actually. He shouldn’t be listening to his mommy over you. It grinds me big time.

Theoretically, he COULD get you a moissanite and just say “it’s a lovely diamond i got a great deal on!” to keep her shushed, haha.

Many large chain jewelry stores would let you return something like a soliatire stone if you haven’t actually worn it. Many have 30 day policies “just in cases” the chick doesn’t like it

Post # 13
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m wondering how this situation went. It’s good that you value his mom’s opinion and you want him to be proud of the purchase as well, but this could set a pattern that you don’t want to get in to. My SO has been known to let his mom sway his opinions too. Even though we both adore his mom, it’s important that his choices are based on what he thinks, not on just satisfying his mom.

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