(Closed) What would you do in this situation? – lovely family drama

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 33
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543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I would have a major problem with this if I were you. Tell him that that isn’t want you want and see if you can find something you both can agree on. I would be postponing until you could agree or pull him to your side. I can’t believe he let his family guilt him into doing something he knew you wouldn’t want.

I wouldn’t get married somewhere that would make me miserable.

Post # 35
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467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Corilee13: If he wants to give you the whole wedding experience then he should let you guys get married at your dream venue!

I think you should tell him that you feel close to calling it off. It might make him realise that he’s being a little selfish.

Post # 36
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543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Misfit: I agree! If he is so set on giving you the experience that you want, he should let you have the venue you want. I honestly would consider just postponing indefinitely to see if he will compromise. I know it sucks. (((HUGS)))

Post # 38
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467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Corilee13: *cheers* good for you!! Changing some things is fine…. changing the whole thing just because they don’t like it is wrong, especially when you’re paying for it!

Keep us updated?

Post # 40
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273 posts
Helper bee

Its not a matter of who is right or wrong, why? because everyone thinks they are right in this situation. It’s to the point where people are voicing opinions just because they want to be right and have some decision making authority. Yes, even though it is YOUR wedding day and most people would agree it should be a wedding that both you and your fiance want that clearly doesn’t mean anything in this case!

This is why its all in the “approach”, sometimes you just have to put on a sales face, sit everyone down, act extremely sympathetic, and show them your plan to cater to all their concerns (you will provide transportation, where all guests meet at a designated spot for a van to pick them up OR show them hotel accomodations in the area). You’ve got to KISS ASS if you want the wedding that you want, no you shouldn’t “have” to do that, but it doesn’t seem like your current method is getting you very far. After all, it is a marriage of two families as well. Goodluck!!

Post # 41
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467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Corilee13: Don’t change your plans. And go and have a drink and some chocolate and relax for a bit. You deserve it! 🙂

Post # 42
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649 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

That is so awful of them to make you feel this way.  I say try to get Fiance back on board with the Portland venue (somehow).  They will certainly come (even if they bitch about it from now until then). And if they really choose not to come b/c of an hour ride in the car then they aren’t worrying about anyhow!  I am truly sorry you are surrounded by such a selfish group of people!

Post # 42
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649 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Double post!

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