(Closed) What would you do in this situation?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll:
    Bite the bullet and go for it. The bill collectors will understand and besides, she's your bestie! : (34 votes)
    29 %
    Respectfully decline, but offer to treat her to a mani-pedi and dinner at her fave restaurant. : (61 votes)
    51 %
    Other, please explain : (24 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 34
    20 posts
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Aquaria:  okk… Are you planning to write a thesis?

    Post # 35
    26 posts

    I would discuss it with her, letting her know that I would LOVE to be her Maid/Matron of Honor, but it was financially a bad time for me – I just didn’t have the money .

    Post # 36
    494 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I selected ‘Other’. Funny, this just recently happened to me and one of my bridesmaids. My bridesmaid accepted the role of bridesmaid, despite her financial and time contraints. She was too busy for me and she couldn’t afford it. When I asked her, I tried to be clear that there would be costs involved. I figured it was common sense about getting fitted for a dress, so I didn’t mention that. She accepted it and said everything was fine.

    Being the bride in this situation, I wish she would have been honest with me from the get-go. Instead she didn’t tell me until the last minute and put me through a world of stress. I don’t care if she treated me to a mani/pedi or took my to dinner or anything to make up for it. The honesty, which would have eliminated all that stress, would have been nice enough. 

    Honesty is the best policy. Don’t wait for the bride to track you down and give you the boot. 


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