- Candace From BC
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Okay, so long story short–hopefully 🙂
My two friends are planning on having a small bachelorette party for me. It gets complicated because one of the two girls does not get along with my future sister in law and one of my good friends. So this is what they say: (names changed)
“T and I would like to plan a little bacholrette party for you, but because you know the circumstances between T and W and K, we would like them not to be there and you can do something with them later if you want”
Basically, W is my fiances sister and K is one of my good friends who is close to W.
T and W don’t get along and W and K and close friends.T just doesn’t like K because she is close to W and thinks they talk about her. Sounds childish I know.
At past family gatherings W has been the one to say “we can be civil to eachother but we dont have to be friends” so she is being the bigger person. T on the other hand is not, and just doesn’t come.
(Back story–my best friend (lets call her M who is also my Fiance sister and W’s sister passed away in an accident we were in a few years ago. T was also M’s best friend. T started dating M’s boyfriens shortly after M died and W thinks it was inappropriate and dispicable to do that to her “bestfriend” and now W won’t have anything to do with T or her boyfriend.
So why should I have to not invite two people (W and I are not super close but she is still my FSIL) and K who I grew up with because it will make it awkward for T? I dont know that either W or K will be upset, but I dont want to play into T’s games.
I just think it’s rediculous that I should have to worry about not inviting anyone because of how someone else feels. I don’t have time for two parties. So I think I am going to sugguest just having a wine night the night before the wedding and those who come to our Destination Wedding can be there–if they get along or not.