(Closed) What would you do? Keep your original e ring or give it back to MIL?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What would you do? Keep your original e ring or give it back to MIL?
    Keep ring and wear it as a right hand ring : (21 votes)
    53 %
    Return it to MIL to wear : (15 votes)
    38 %
    Other : (4 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I’d just talk to Mother-In-Law about it.  I think it’s sweet that you love it and you don’t want to mess with it.  Tell her the situation (she’d certainly understand the sizing issue) and ask her what her wish for it would be.  If she wants to keep it intact, perhaps there’s another family member it could be handed down to.  Or, if she’s fine with you doing as you wish – then you are free to reset it, etc.

    But, this way – it’s off your conscious!

    Edit: if you don’t want to reset it – then, I’d keep it as a right hand ring.  Or, to give to your future daughter – possibly?


    Post # 4
    1508 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I’d keep it since it’s been yours for so long. Pass it on to one of your kids someday. That keeps the traditon going.

    Post # 6
    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Ohhh I like the idea of having it to give to your daughter…I think that would be precious. Until then you could wear it as a right hand ring.

    That way you feel like it’s still sentimental, but that you’re not letting it go to waste by just sitting there.

    Post # 8
    3176 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    It was her ring but now it is your ring. I would keep it.

    Post # 9
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @pinkstardustdesigns: You can always give it to your boy to give to the girl he might propose to someday? That would really keep the tradition alive :).

    I would definitely talk to your Mother-In-Law though and see what she thinks.

    Post # 10
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @pinkstardustdesigns: if you are sentimental about it – KEEP it!  Just wear it occasionally as a right hand ring.  If Mother-In-Law asks – just say you guys decided to do a 10-year anniversary upgrade.  There’s nothing wrong with that!  She gave it to you – it’s yours! (IMO)!  But, you could also just casually bring it up in conversation (catching her at a good time, of course!) ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 11
    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    at some point, maybe gold should be added to it anyway (whether you do it or if your Mother-In-Law does it). if it’s an important ring, you’ll want to maintain it so it lasts a really long time. it won’t hurt the ring to add gold (I bet he’d add it to the inside of the band). I know a lot about metalwork, I used to do it myself. the only thing that could potentially be damaged is if it had fine details such as filigree. think of it like it was ring surgery. a good jewelry designer with a steady hand would be able to avoid damaging it. but if damaging filigree was unavoiadble for some reason, a good designer would be able to restore it.

    or look at it another way: good furniture restorers can fix up an old piece of furniture and make it look like it did when it was brand new. they might have to add stuff to it, but ultimately, the original furniture is still there.

    Post # 12
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Are you hoping to have kids someday? I think this would be awesome to have to pass down to a daughter!

    You could offer to “loan” it back to Mother-In-Law with the agreement that it goes to your daughter someday (if you like my idea, haha)

    ETA: okay, just scrolled back up and read someone already suggested this. I need to be better at reading before replying!

    Post # 13
    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I would keep it and wear it as a right hand ring. It sounds as if you manipulated it quite a bit since it was given to you to begin with, so I don’t think I would give it back to your Mother-In-Law. There’s nothing wrong with wearing it as a right hand ring and then passing it down to your FDIL at some point.

    Post # 15
    3204 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would keep it and pass it down when your children (if you are having any). That way it really becomes a family thing. If your Mother-In-Law gave it to you then she knew it was going to be in your possession and probably isn’t expecting it back. If you are especially attached than feel free to wear it as a right hand ring, this way you can keep it close!

    Post # 16
    2907 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Talk to her/ She will help you decide what the answer is. ๐Ÿ™‚

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