Post # 1
- Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!
Okay, I just talked to a friend and I’m wondering what others would do in this situation.
She has two small children, who had DS systems (one per child..its a hand held video game system for those who don’t know) They were outside on their porch and small front yard (just a patch of grass really..not fenced in) and were playing with their DSs. (Two weeks ago) The small boys had to run inside and go to the bathroom, so the DSs were left on the grass, with the front door open, along with the house phone handset and a book.
They came back out and they were gone. She couldn’t remember if they had brought them inside, so she searched the house thinking the boys (or she) misplaced them. She couldn’t find them, so she honestly didn’t know what happened to them.
Fast forward to today, she gets home and her husband is standing on the porch talking to a boy (maybe 7, 8…as a side note the boy told the Mom to ”go f&*k herself” when she told them to be careful playing on the rocks) They go inside and come to find out the husband got the DSs back from the boy.
The story is: The boy (or his younger brother) found them and they kept them. The husband paid them $55 to give them back. She was happy they were returned, but a. doesn’t think he should have paid, and b. wanted to talk to their parents..she feels they stole. He said they ‘found’ them and were given a ‘finders fee’. (As another side….originally the boy said ‘oh we found two DSs here and do you have the charger, we need it to play them’ so she thinks they were only given back because they were no use to them without the charger anymore. The boy also gave them one of his own games.)
What would you have done?
Post # 2
I would be talking to the parents ASAP. The kids definitely knew what they were doing. I’m in juvenile probation, so after a day of work I have little patience for asshole children. I just finished a program last night with parents and children and we discussed how kids get away with a lot more these days because parents don’t communicate with other parents. And also children learn that this behavior is okay, because their parents enable them and always believe they can do no wrong so the children continue with wrong behaviors. I would approach the parents, but honestly I doubt they would be receptive.
Post # 3
I would not have paid them a finder’s fee for returning games they stole from private property. What a poor lesson to teach them.
If the boy or his younger brother found the games on someone else’s property, it is time they learned that their first assumption should be that it belongs to the property owner.
They had two choices: leave the games where they were, or take them to their own parents and ask them to return to the property with them to ascertain ownership. In my mind it would not be safe to suggest a young child go knock on doors unaccompanied, to say they found the games and ask who owned them.
Post # 5
I would have talked to their parents, end of story. No money would have ever been paid for my own property.
Post # 6
Yeah… the husband paying them for them was probably the worst thing he could have done, lol. Obviously they stole them and didn’t “find” them conveniently. I’d be calling their parents and asking for the $55 back.
Post # 7
I don’t understand why they wouldn’t go to the parents. The parents need to know the children stole. Because they did steal and if they believe they didn’t they need to be explained exactly what theft is and the consequences. As a parent I would damned well want to know my children were doing this. Then again what did the parents think when the children magically showed up with the games.
No I wouldn’t reward them. You are rewarding bad behavior. Of they thought the items were simply lost items they should have asked around, as in gone to your friends house as they did looking for the chargers to make sure they weren’t someone belongings.
It’s totally wrong to pay the kids. It’s teaching them such a bad life lesson and no social responsibility.
Post # 8
Yeah, those kids are old enough to know that the DS laying on the lawn is not a lost item they can just take, and I don’t believe “finders keepers” applies to this scenario. The husband made a mistake and no way should he have given them money. They will probably grow into one of those horrible adults who won’t give back property they know belongs to someone else unless they’re paid a reward (well hopefully not…).
Post # 9
Go to the parents before the kids take something else. I’d be thinking the kids will be back because it was so easy for them to make money from the dad. And i’d be setting up security cameras out front.
A relative of mine uses her old cell phone with an ap called Alfred. It turns her old cell into a security camera that can take video and pics 24/7 as long as it is connected to wifi and you can see it live stream from your current phone. You can speak into it to tell whoever is on your property to beat it!
Post # 10
If they came back to ask for the chargers, they knew the DS had owners AND knew who the owners were. That’s not “finders keepers” that’s just stealing.
It’d be one thing if the kid found it at the park or some place public where who knows who the owners might have been, but taking from the yard and having the gall to go and ask for the chargers?
I bet that kid leaves his bike unattended all the time. Maybe someone should “find” it
Post # 11
Go talk to the parents. They were stolen.
Post # 12
I would be very upset if I found out my boys stole from someones yard, then got rewarded with cash for it. Those kids knew better. I would call their parents.
Post # 13
I don’t have kids but in my opinion that is stealing. I would talk to parents ASAP, because as a saying goes “you can’t teach old dog new tricks”.
They need to learn now that this is form of stealing, so they grow up smarter. Also, I would ask for money return from parents.
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!
Unfortunately, they live in an area where the parents probably won’t give an absolute darn.
Post # 15
I have to disagree with the previous posters. If a child that young is telling an adult to “go f*ck herself” and charging a finder’s fee for things he stole, he is learning that behaviour (and probably worse) at home. No way in hell would I go confront the parents. At best confronting the parents would probably lead to being ignored/laughed at, at worst it could lead to serious bodily injury. I might have been tempted to call the cops, but at this point what’s done is done.
The best thing your friend can do is tell her kids to steer clear of that boy, and also to not leave expensive things laying around. If I were her, I probably also wouldn’t let my small kids play unsupervised in the front yard when there’s an aggressive little hooligan running around the neighborhood.