- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
@KhaleesiStormborn: Oh, this was so hard to read – not because it wasn’t well written, but because it broke my heart and was all too familiar. I have ridden the rollercoaster of lies and addiction – my brother was an addict for 12 years before hanging himself in October 2010. I swore that I would never become involved with someone who did any form of illegal drug, and I have stuck to it.
Now, that being said – the issue here is that you set a boundary (no drug use) but then blurred the line by allowing him to smoke once a month. For many people, not everyone, they have a hard time moderating drug use to one per month. This gray area seems to have given him the confidence to go further into his drug use, figuring you’ll forgive him when you find out.
He lied to you, kept secrets from you, and worst of all did it with someone in your own family. If you were already married, or even engaged, I’d probably suggest some counseling to discuss the broken trust in your relationship But since you aren’t yet at that point, I’m sorry to say that my advice would be to end it now. If he’s taking these liberties now, the odds are more than likely that he will continue to abuse drugs in the future. Statistics don’t lie.
I wish you all the luck in the world, and I hope that you have better luck next time. Be strong in your limits – no drug use means no drug use, period.