Post # 1
I feel like a very bad bride. I’ve been waiting on my photographer to send us a picture cd so I can print out pictures to include with our thank yous. We had our photographer take pictures of everyone at dinner so that’s what we were going to include. Fast forward to now, 3 months after the wedding, we still haven’t gotten it. So I decided to just go ahead and buy generic thank yous and forget about the photos. I could list the photographers website so they can buy a photo of them for 15.00.
The problem is that I’ve now realized that I’ve lost the gift list. I do remember some gifts we got, and am 100% about who gave them. For the other 90% I’m not sure if they gave money or a gift – or nothing at all. I’ve torn open every moving box and it isn’t anywhere.
So what would you ladies do? Write a generic thank you? Not write one at all? Mention what happened?
I feel really awful I know many people gave us wonderful gifts and I’m not sure what to do. I’m already late regardless so Im doing them this weekend.
Post # 3
Absolutely do not skip writing them. I would try to come up with some sort of generic message that works for money or a gift. “thank you for celebrating with us and helping us start our new life together…” etc etc
Post # 4
I agree, do not skip the thank you’s. We have been to about 10 weddings/showers and have yet to receive a thank you. So even if its generic, I say send one! 🙂
Post # 5
I would try to figure out as many as you can. Also, can you start talking to people informally about what gifts they gave? So that you can appropriately thank them.
Don’t forget to tear your place apart and try to find that list. It would be best to include specifics about what gift they gave, but if that really isn’t possible, a generic thank you is still better then no thank you at all.
I wouldn’t include a link to buy a $15 photo of themselves. If it was at all possible I would probably buy people the photo/print from your CD the photos and mail them out at a later date as a sorry I took so long to write your thank you.
Post # 6
I lost the guest list to one of my showers and just wrote generic thank you cards. I felt terrible about it, but figured it was better than no thank you at all.
Post # 7
for the people you do remember write them spacific, then write the generic letter for those you can not remember…. You can always write the thank yous then once the photographer gets the pictures slip a picture into each thank you
Post # 8
A generic note is better than no note at all.
Post # 9
Did you have a registry? Most if not all of them have something like a “thank you note manager” which tells you who bought what. You could start with that + your memory and then write generic ones for whatever you don’t remember.
A generic note is better than nothing.
Post # 10
Okay thanks everyone!
@scadadle15: I was able to look on both of our registries and grab a few more that I forgot about. Thank you for that! What an awesome thing.
There are quite a few gifts left that I don’t know who they go to all things not on our registry. Ill see if husband remembers but he usually isn’t any help on remembering anything.