(Closed) What would you do? (officiant issues)

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

If I were in this situation I would have my sister get ordained, the friend conduct the ceremony, and then when it came time to sign the license, just have my sister sign as officiant. 

None of your guests will be the wiser as they will be witnessing your actual ceremony.

Sorry you’re having to deal with this.  Hope my idea helps!

Post # 4
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Are there little wedding chapels around you that do "quickie" weddings?  A lot of these types of places will offer license services where you can basically just sign the certificate and not have to do anything else "wedding-y".  So you could go in before OR after your actual ceremony to get the legalities taken care of.  If you want your ceremony and planned wedding to be the real wedding, just wait until after you get back from the honeymoon to sign all the paperwork. 

Even if you do it before, though, it doesn’t have to be that big of a deal.  Even in a courthouse wedding, there is very little you have to do in order to really make it legal (very little to say and then just sign the paperwork), so you could save your real vows for your real wedding.  The emotion of being in your dress with all your friends and family is going to be genuine, so I don’t see why any one would doubt the truth of the moment.  In my opinion, getting the legal part over with is a lot different than the actual ceremony where you’ll be expressing your feelings and emotional commitment as opposed to just committing to the legal obligations/benefits of being married.

Post # 5
681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

If i were you, i would probably try to find an officiant, or find another friend or relative willing to get ordained. Is there any one else in your family or friends who is comfortable with public speaking and willing to get ordained? There are a few non-denominational officiate organizations that have several officiants – they may be more likely to have someone available on your day…

i know a month sounds really short, but you do have time to find someone or have someone ordained. Good luck!

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