(Closed) What would you do (or not do) in this situation? Sorry kinda long!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What would you do?
    Do nothing- take the higher road : (15 votes)
    65 %
    Do the same actions back- no invite (or late invite) seated at "cousins table" : (6 votes)
    26 %
    Other (explain below) : (2 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    114 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Take the higher road. Once you’re married to your fella, they’ll be part of your family too. It’s unfortunate that there’s so much drama that went on, but be better than them.

    They shouldn’t set the example for your own etiquette – besides, what goes around comes around eventually.

    Post # 4
    202 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    WOW THEY SUCK AT ETIQUETTE!!!  How unbelievably rude!!!  Mostly the Thank You note – very very tacky.

    Although that doesn’t mean you have to be rude and tacky.  Kill them with Kindness.  Show them the right way it’s done.

    Post # 5
    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Speaking honestly, I would do the same thing (or similar) back. If they think it is okay to do it to you, then they shouldn’t be offended if you do it to them. The thing that really bothers me is the lack of thank you note though. 

    Post # 6
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I would take the higher road about 90% lol.  If it were me, I would be so mad about the way they treated me, I wouldn’t be able to resist doing a little something back.  So I would 1. send them a meticulously addressed invitation, thank you note, etc. to show that you actually know how to properly behave like adults unlike them, and 2. seat them at the young cousin’s table.  I mean they are cousins, right? 😉  And if they felt that was an appropriate place to seat the two of you, then how can them complain that is isn’t appropriate for them?

    Seriously stuff like that makes me so mad, but I usually try for more subtle revenge, like immediately sending a gushing over the top thank you note to someone who I know snubbed me on a Thank You note in the past… But I can be sort of a smug b*tch sometimes haha…

    Post # 7
    573 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    There’s too much craziness in there to dissect. Just stick to common sense ettiqutte, like don’t invite them to engagement parties or showers and then snub them for the wedding/reception. Respect yourself and your SO by not tyring to mimic their bad behavior. Remember that it’s your wedding now, so you should only invite people who are supportive and who you want to be a part of your life.

    Post # 8
    1641 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    If you think (rightfully so) that their behavior was bad, why would you even consider repeating it? It seems to me they are ignorant to good manners, but being ignorant and doing something intentially knowing it is not appropriate are two different things altogether.

    Do the gracious thing, which is nothing. Repeating their behavior would be very immature, and definitely not gracious or good manners!

    Post # 9
    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    honestly they wouldnt get an invite from me – and i wouldnt say anythign about it. obviously they dont really give a rats patoot about yall anyway.

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