(Closed) What would you do? Please help!

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

Well how about a shopping session with the mother of the girls, and look for black dresses, black dresses with white or champagne straps, black dresses with white or champagne dots, etc. Something that would light up the dress a bit maybe.

Get the mother of the girls involved, women are known to be able to change their husband’s opinion so… Get her to help you out and ask her opinion while bringing her to the shops.


Post # 18
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

One thing that I’ve found about wedding planning: men speak up about things they don’t have a CLUE about. Dads are also really funny about not wanting their girls to grow up, and it sounds like this is that kind of situation. I agree with MrsFroggy — moms are a bit more clued in when it comes to this kind of thing, so see if you can talk to her. And what about asking the girls themselves? Can you imagine a 12-year-old and a 14-year-old girl whose dad won’t let them wear black dresses — it’s the ultimate underhanded way to GET him on board, as he won’t want to have to deal with their whining! At least, that’s the way it worked when I was 14. =)

Post # 20
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Virginal? WTF? Are they not allowed to wear black at all? It’s a color holy crap not a chasity belt.


Anyway….my Jr Bridesmaid is wearing pink, my maids in black. My flower girl is tying it together with a pink sash on her dress to match the Jr. I let the Jr pick her color, b;ack or pink just because either way it was fine for me…

Sounds like you have itall sorted, but I just wanted to let you know that mine look good set up together with different colors so you should have what you want and that your uncle should mayeb chill a bit. IMO of course.  

Post # 21
378 posts
Helper bee

All of my girls are wearing a black dress (that aren’t going to match – I just told them to get a black dress) and my flower girl/jr bridesmaid is going to wear a black dress with a white dress to contrast my white dress with a black sash. I’m so excited to see how it’s all going to turn out. Five more weeks and I’ll know! 

I’m glad to hear that it’s officially not your problem anymore. You gave them the option and they went with what they wanted! yeay for no more stress in that area! 

Post # 22
11 posts
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think the black dresses would look lovely as well! But if it is such a BIG problem for your uncle have the girls in champange dresses with black ribbon around waist and or accents of black to make them tie in. I think the black would look better however.

To your uncle I would say:

Dear …,

I understand where you are coming from and I also would never reconzider or ‘fire’ … and …. I am so excited to have them participate on my wedding day. I think the black dresses would suit my wedding better then the girls in champagne. I am however letting them girls pick their dresses out and I would hope that makes it a little more comforting to you. I hope you understand and i am sure they will look wonderful!




Thats what I would do

Post # 23
202 posts
Helper bee

i do think strapless is a bit too mature for 12 and 14 y.o. they can wear them elsewhere, but at a wedding, it may be a bit much. just my two cents. but i’m sure when they stand in with the entire bridal party, it will look fabulous.

Post # 24
189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

Just to clarify, the OP said she *wouldn’t* have them wear strapless… she was fine with any style/neckline/sleeves as long as it was black.

Post # 26
189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

oops, sorry!!! I totally missed your update. Wow, that’s pretty much hilarious.


What about champagne-colored shrugs or something, if you’re not comfortable w/the strapless thing? 

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