Post # 1
I have a bridesmaid who just told me she is expecting! Great! I am SO happy for her. She will be about 5 months along at my wedding so we found her an alternative dress.
Here is the issue – the dress we chose for the expecting Bridesmaid or Best Man is not a maternity dress. It is empire waist so I am sure it will be fine. However, we are having only one other bridesmaid – do I put her in the same dress? We have already ordered the other dresses, which are a bit more form fitting and a straighter cut. Definitely not appropriate or wouldn’t work for a pregnant lady.
Expecting bridesmaid isn’t making her pregnancy announcment for quite some time as she is very newly pregnant which I understand and respect. However if we are to change the other bridesmaid into the matching dress, we need to do so ASAP.
I am not quite sure how I should go about this. It is has always been my vision to have bridesmaid’s in matching dresses. I don’t want to betray expecting bridesmaid’s trust by telling the other bridesmaid.
Ideas? thoughts? Help!
Post # 3
You can always have the bridemaids in different dresses. Not everyone needs to be matching.
Post # 4
If you’ve already ordered the other dresses would you have to pay for a second dress on top of that?
Post # 5
I am a bridesmaid in a wedding in October and am due in December. The dress is pretty form fitting and what we did was order it a couple size bigger in the chest and then order extra fabric and they will make me a new belly once it is closer to the wedding. Right now you really only have a few options
1. Go with mismatched dresses
2. See if you could alter the pregnanat BMs dress like I am doing
3. Tell other Bridesmaid or Best Man you changed your mind nad have her change her dress order, there is no need to reveal the reason for the change
Post # 6
My bridesmaid is due the week after my wedding ..soooo I feel your pain 🙂 I chose to have all three of my girls in different dresses that compliment thier body types. I felt that was the kindest thing I could do for all of them.
Post # 7
I really want them to be matching, since there are only 2 of them. Just what I have been envisioning.
We ordered the dresses 2 months ago, so I fear it’s too late to change the order.
I would pay for the 2nd dress for the non-expecting Bridesmaid or Best Man.
I was thinking of just ordering it for her and by the time it comes in, expecting Bridesmaid or Best Man will likely have made her announcement.
Post # 8
@AnonInEast: If it is worth it to you to pay for the additional dress then I say go for it. Can you talk to the pregnant Bridesmaid or Best Man to see if she minds if you explain the situation? If that doesn’t work I say just explain to the non-pregnant Bridesmaid or Best Man that you are changing the dress but she won’t be responsible for any additional costs.
Post # 9
@Natalieh86: I think that is a good option.
Thanks for the advice everyone!