Post # 1
I keep thinking about this and I am not sure how to handle it. I had my baby in mid-April and I still can’t seem to get past it.
It was my last day at the hospital. My nurse walks in with this very young looking girl and tells me that she is a nursing student shadowing her for the day. She did not ask my permission, and she did not let me know a “student” would be with her before she allowed the student into the room. I had been denying students all along except one who was already a nurse and only watched my labor (no checks and no seeing me naked).
Please keep in mind that I separated my pelvis during delivery. This means I was heavily medicated for pain, and frazzled by all the commotion of physical therapy, orthopedics, and the phone calls trying to arrange for delivery at home of my wheelchair and hospital bed. This is in addition to all of the other things that normally happen on discharge day (lactation, pediatrician, etc). Bottom line, I was heavily drugged and just tired and frazzled. I sort of didn’t realize what was going on which is why I was unable to put an immediate stop to this.
Anyways, the nurse wants to check my boobs and watch me nurse. She then wants to check my vagina. Both pretty routine (though due to pelvis separation, positioning was embarrassing) but I was a little uncomfortable with the student there. The student did not participate in anything, did not say a single word, and looked terribly uncomfortable and nervous.
A few hours later, the nurse (alone this time) starts telling us about her kids. She says she has an 18 year old son and “a 17 year old daughter whom you met this morning when she was shadowing me.”. I was too stunned to speak.
So without asking me, this nurse allowed her teenage daughter into my hospital room and let her watch while examining me!!! I feel so horribly humiliated that I cried for weeks afterwards every time I thought about it. It stil upsets me so much.
What should I do about it?
Post # 3
@heathaah: I would report this to the hospital administration, that was unbelievably unprofessional of her!
((HUGS)) to you! I’m so sorry you had to endure so much pain and embarrassment because of her actions. (But if it makes you feel any better since it was a medical setting and procedure there really isn’t anything to be embarrassed about, nurses see things like this all the time.)
I don’t blame you for being upset, I would be too. I hope you can talk with someone at the hospital to reprimand that nurse for putting you through this. She should never have done something like that without your express consent and permission.
Maybe by your reporting what happened to you you’ll save another woman the same bad experience in the future.
I wish you all the best.
Post # 4
Assuming she lied about her daughter being a nursing student (which at 17, I’m guessing it is a slim chance she really is a nursing-specific student), I would definitely 100% complain to the hospital. That’s not acceptable, especially since you’ve made it pretty clear you didn’t like having students around to begin with. Even if you were not all frazzled from the drugs and it was all fine and dandy like the movies, it is not acceptable for the nurse to bring her children around the patients under false pretenses.
Post # 5
@Sunfire: True that nurses see this stuff all the time, but this girl was in high school! Ugh. I hate even thinking about it. 🙁
ETA this was a Saturday too. No school on Saturday so I guess it was follow mom to work day?
Post # 6
@heathaah: My high school had a pre-nursing program and select students were able to do things like shadow doctors/nurses on their daily routines, including OB-GYN rotations. Could that possibly have been the case?
Post # 7
Some high schools have shadow days for professions. She could have been in a program like that.
Post # 8
@misspeanut: It could be, but what makes it sketchy is the fact that it was her daughter, a Saturday, and she did not ask permission. Also the fact that this girl did not talk or participate in anything. No instruction or information was spoken to her at all.
Post # 9
I am all for students learning, but that girl was not a student. You need to report the nurse.
I would start by asking what was the name of the student who was on duty with Nurse X on X date. Don’t tell them why you are asking. Then when they say “There was no student that day.” You say, yes there was and the nurse said it was her daughter, which is unacceptable.
Post # 10
Was it possible she was a CNA (certified nursing assistant) student? I had friends in high school that were graduating with their CNA certifications at the same time as graduating high school, so they attended college CNA classes in the evenings and on weekends.
Post # 11
@heathaah: I would feel the same way as you. I would definately file a complaint with the hospital and maybe even with your insurance company (I work for an insurance company and we do take complaints about providers. I don’t work in provider complaints, but I’m sure if we got a lot of complaints about certain providers, it may affect payment or keeping them in network down the road…) I’m just really sorry you were put in an uncomfortable situation, especially after a traumatic-sounding birth experience.
On a different note, how is your baby girl? I am still in TTC-land, but I remember you getting your BFP and how long-awaited it was. I was (and am) so happy for you!
Post # 12
On the up side, after seeing the complications you went through, I bet that girl is all over getting effective birth control, haha.
But really, I would definitely report it.
Post # 13
I would file a complaint and let the hospital sort out what the girl’s status was. I’d be pissed, too.
Post # 14
Well, as a nursing student, it really sucks when people deny letting us help. How else do you exspect nurses to learn what to do?? There is only so much simulation dolls can teach us. And yes, in stuff like L&D, we JUST watch. We were allowed to watch and get the throw up bags basically in our l&d roations of clinicals. Other places we get to do lots more but in the mother baby units we do just watch. The nurse was most likely explaining what she was doing outside the patient rooms.
If she really was a student (which there are lots of high schools with CNA programs) then honestly, she did was she was supposed to, observe to learn. And LOTS of schools have clinicals on weekends because they have classes on weekdays. Now, if it was appropriate for a mother to be showing her daughter (assuming she was in some kind of nursing program) is questionable, but still, she is going to be a nurse and she is going to see lots more naked people than you.
Believe me, naked people no longer phase me, neither do any of their bodily fluids and functions. If people want good nurses in the future, they have to accept that at some point, they are going to have to allow nursing students to observe!! Really, we don’t give a crap that you look like crap, we want to learn to be the best nurses we can be.
Post # 15
@heathaah: I think you should call hospital administration and complain. With that said though when I went to my cardiologist to have an EKG and have a stress test done he had a high school student shadowing him on both occasions. He was 16 and in a special program that allowed him to shadow the doc. The girl could be in a program like that but I would think they would put her with someone she was not related too.
Post # 16
@chasesgirl: But it is my right to not have a student in the room if I am not comfortable with it. And I am most definitely not comfortable with a high school student. Besides, there is no disputing that I should have been asked first, as in before she walked in.