(Closed) What would you do? (STD and invitation question)

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Can I send an email now?
    Sure, send the email and use it as your save the date. : (7 votes)
    19 %
    Send the email, but also save the dates in October. : (6 votes)
    17 %
    Design, pay for, and mail real save the dates IMMEDIATELY!!! : (18 votes)
    50 %
    Just stick to your original timeline. It'll work out. : (5 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    7902 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Why don’t you just send your save the dates now? It’s totally normal to send them anytime 1 year our of later once the date and location are fixed.

    Post # 5
    254 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We are having a pretty low-key wedding overall and we did this for the same reason. We decided on a 3 month engagement so we wanted to give people as much time as possible. We didn’t have time for save the dates (le sigh) but I think people appreciate as much info/warning as they can get.

    Post # 6
    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I think you guys should start working on the Save-The-Date Cards early.  I’d feel a lot more comfortable booking a hotel room if I had an STD (giggle) rather than just an email.  Good luck!  I had a pretty good experience with Vistaprint being easy to use, inexpensive, and quick.

    Post # 8
    515 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I have a few guests who will need hotel rooms and I didn’t really see the point of spending money to send Save-The-Date Cards. (To me, it seems like sending two invitations.) So I contacted all the out of town people well ahead of sending out invitations to let them know the date and the location and assist them in booking their rooms and transportation. It seems to have worked out just fine and no one has complained about not getting a STD in addition to their invitation.

    Post # 9
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    To be honest, unless the Save-The-Date Cards look really gross (trying not to snigger), I don’t think it matters how much effort you put into designing them. It sounds as though you need to let people know as soon as possible, and no one is going to judge you on your Save-The-Date Cards.

    If you absolutely cannot send out a less-than-perfect STD, then I think you should email everyone that you’re planning on inviting to let them know. It sounds like things are kinda urgent, so don’t delay simply because the STD doesn’t look quite right!

    Post # 12
    3303 posts
    Sugar bee

    Tell them sooner than later. Start getting those Save-The-Date Cards out!

    Post # 13
    391 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    The email you’re talking about is pretty much a save the date.  I would just get going on them right away.  Plus, your wedding is in June… the start of prime vacation season.  You want to give people notice that they are busy that weekend attending your wedding 🙂

    Post # 14
    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I voted for the email.  Honestly, I don’t think a traditional STD is going to communicate to people that they need to make hotel reservations almost a year in advance.  We sent out Save-The-Date Cards at 8 months, an email with our wedding website and hotel block information at 5 months, invitations at 3 months, and have received 50 acceptances, but exactly 1 hotel room has been reserved.  You need to be very clear that reservations need to be made immediately and include a few suggestions.  Is there really no way to reserve a block of rooms?

    Post # 15
    13010 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would do Save-The-Date Cards early.  No need to wait until October. 

    Do you have any big chain hotels around you? I’ve never heard hotels not letting you block rooms unless the event was there…

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