Post # 1
I went to a wedding yesterday. We were surprised to see chairs set up outside (no tent or covering at all) as it was just starting to rain. We were even more surprised when the planner came dashing out, telling us all to take a seat as they were going to try to do the ceremony “quick, before it rains.”As she said this, the rain started falling harder and faster.
We all sat outside, in the pouring rain for 30 min. We couldn’t hear the ceremony over the sound of the rain so mostly, we just sat and got wet. Really wet. Like, it looked like we had showered in our clothes. My dress was drenched, my hair and make up destroyed.
I was upset; I realize this is “their” day, but I felt disrespected sitting in the rain. Don’t you want happy guests, who feel their best? The cocktail hour was held under a tent and dinner was inside. Was there really no other option? I thought outdoor weddings usually had a back up plan for rain?
I know you’re supposed to just go with thing, but there are sometimes when you have to give up the ‘idea’ you’ve had in your head….
Post # 3
I would have sent somebody to the dollar store to buy as many umbrellas as possible and delayed the ceremony by half an hour…or I would have moved inside.
Post # 4
@mamadingdong: I would not have sat in the rain. Etiquette does not mean that you are a door mat. I would have excused myself and waited in an area where I would not be getting soaked.
Post # 5
Rain back up was the frist question we had for our venues. As a bride, I wouldnt even want my ceremony out in the rain? Did the bride/groom, and wedding party have cover?
Post # 6
@SandyDollHair: I was just thinking the same thing! We had an outdoor wedding and bought enough umbrellas for every two people to share one in case it rained. It turned out to be fifty bucks we didn’t end up needing to spend, but I’m glad we had the back-up plan in case it had come to that.
@mamadingdong: Sorry you had such a crappy experience; that sucks!! I agree it was kind of weird. If they had enough money to hire a wedding planner, they should have had enough money to have some sort of “Plan B.”
Post # 7
The bride & groom stood under an umbrella but the attendants were out there getting drenched like us. I’m usually not a doormat, but sometimes I just don’t want to seem “difficult.” I’m just sad I didn’t enjoy her ceremony 🙁
Post # 8
I would have walked inside during the ceremony. Not like you could hear it anyway. I think that was pretty inconsiderate of them. You should always have a backup plan if you are doing an outdoor wedding
Post # 9
That is so so terrible. As a guest I would not have stayed out there in the rain. It’s one thing if it was just drizzling and quite another if it is pouring! How incredibly inconsiderate to ask people to stay there for you.
Post # 10
There should have been a backup plan! Most brides don’t even have a wedding planner but they know that if they are having an outdoor wedding that there has to be a backup plan in case of inclimate weather, she had a wedding planner and neither one of them could come up with a backup plan? I’m sorry but there is really no excuse for that! I would have just left and went inside before I got that wet. Were the bride and groom also drenched? They should have either waited half and hour to an hour to see if the rain would let up or moved it into the indoor room they had the dinner in. I think it was fine that the wedding planner asked everyone to sit down quickly in an attempt to get the ceremony finished before the rain but just letting you sit there and get soaked…..
Post # 11
We all sat outside, in the pouring rain for 30 min
seriously? i would have walked inside like a normal person – you are a better person than i could be and i would love to see a pic of the bride and groom standing in the rain saying their vows
Post # 12
@eloping: i am a normal person- what a strange assumption to make…
i was there to see my friend get married and wanted to support her. i have a personality trait of never sucking anything up, so i didn’t want to make a big stink since everyone else was outside. looking back, maybe we should have gotten our umbrella and gone in the back, but i guess we were in sheep mentality.
Post # 13
What happened at the reception afterwards? Was everyone just drenched and cold? Was it even fun?
Post # 14
@mamadingdong: you are a much more patient person that I am. I would have went where there is shelter. I don’t know where you live, but here when it rains, it thunders. And by thunders, I mean there is lots of lightning and loud booms haha. I wouldn’t risk my life (and health) to sit out in the rain. That is selfish of them to not have thought about rain IMO. An outside wedding is a craps shoot, and they should have had a backup plan. You are a far better friend that I my dear.
Post # 15
@mamadingdong: sorry my humor doesnt translate well – i wasnt questioning your mental health but i really cannot imagine all these people sitting out in the rain. i wouldnt suck that up at all and like i already posted, you are a better person than i am for sitting it out
Post # 16
Even if I stayed out in the rain for the ceremony I would definitely have left immediately afterwards to get into some comfortable clothes. Whether I came back or not would probably depend on how much I usually liked the couple getting married.