(Closed) What would you have done?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What would you have done?
    I would have been honest. She asked for your honest opinion. : (27 votes)
    68 %
    I would have just kept saying that I liked it. : (12 votes)
    30 %
    Something else - please explain. : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    It sounds like she might have had doubts about the dress too, but needed to hear it from someone else. Personally i prefer an honest opinion. I hate it when everyone tells you that you look great when you dont. I think you told her in a way that wasnt offensive, but was still honest.

    Post # 4
    Member
    6065 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    You didn’t mean to hurt her feelings. Sometimes when we are put on the spot, we don’t really know what to say.

    If I were you I would just call her or visit her and explain that you really do think the dress is nice!

    Post # 5
    Member
    5221 posts
    Bee Keeper

    It sounds like she had a few doubts and maybe just needed to hear it from someone else… most importantly, like you said, SHE should feel awesome in it, and if she doesn’t then there are tons of dresses out there to pick from.

    Post # 7
    Member
    3368 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Would she be willing to wear Spanx under it?  I don’t leave the house without mine on!!  LOL  It makes those somewhat snug garments fit just right (I’m dealing with leftover pregnancy weight, so slightly snug is any everyday affair).

    Post # 8
    Member
    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I think she wanted her honest opinion, and glad you gave it to her!! I am always honest, and think more people should be. That’s why my bff will only shop with me and her mom, because she knows we will be honest with her no matter what

    Post # 9
    Member
    161 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If she asked you multiple times I think she really did want your honest opinion.  When I LOVE a dress/outfit I don’t ask for people’s opinions.  Let her knwo you’re worried you may have hurt her feelings and I’m sure she’ll tell you she’s thankful for the honesty:)

    Post # 10
    Member
    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    she asked you like a million times for you to give your honest opinion. and you finally did. don’t feel bad.

    Post # 11
    Member
    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My mom and I are honest with each other about those sorts of things so if I thought it looked snug I would definitely have told her. I think it more depends on your relationship with your mom and how sensitive she is. I know my mom would never be hurt if I said something like that in a nice way. It’s the whole reason she asks me, because she knows I will tell her the truth but not be mean about it. If your mom is sensitive or you don’t have the kind of communication where you’re honest about those sort of things then I guess it was a bit of a boo-boo. But in the end both you and her want her to look great at your wedding so if the dress wasn’t great for her then maybe it’s best that she look for something more flattering.

    Post # 12
    Member
    5572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think you did the right thing. If she kept asking I’m sure that she had reservations herself and was feeling a little insecure! It’s better that you tell her now so that she can see what she can do about it (spanx, etc.) than for her to see it first in your wedding pictures and be unhappy with how she looked.

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