Post # 1
Just curious as to what everyone is getting their bridesmaids as gifts. I’m having a hard time deciding between getting each person a unique gift tailored to their personality or if I should just get the same item for all the girls. So, I ask you, if you were a bridesmaid, what would you like to receive from the bride?
Also, how much do you think is appropriate to spend on each maid?
Post # 3
@Ohiogal1201: In general, I’d say a unique gift, but that also depends on your skill as a gift-giver, lol.
Otherwise, I don’t think jewelry for the wedding should count as the bridesmaids’ gifts, because it’s something they need for the wedding, like shoes or the dress.
Post # 4
Jewelry for the wedding really shouldn’t be considered a gift; it’s great if they love it and can wear it again, but it’s still part of “the look” for your day, so it’s really not about them. It’s about you. Hence, not a good gift.
Shop for your girls like it’s their birthdays. Set price limits like you’d set for a birthday gift (or a milestone birthday, if you don’t normally do birthday gifts) and pick something that you’d like to give regardless of the occasion. There’s nothing wrong with everyone getting the same gift, but people tend to appreciate and use things more when they’re selected just for them. You work hard for your money and you don’t want to waste it on a matchy-matchy clutch bag that two girls end up carrying daily and two girls shove in the back of the closet!
Post # 5
I did a combination of the above! My BMs all have very different personalities, so I got them all a different necklace based on their taste (it wasn’t intended to be a necklace for the wedding, but they all decided to wear them for the wedding, which was awesome!). I also gave them a box of truffles, a hanger with their names, and I think something else but can’t recall right now.
Giving the same gift helps to keep costs equal, but you could tailor each (i.e. necklace, clutch, robe, etc) to the individual BMs taste. I spent about $100 on each maid.
Post # 6
Generally speaking, jewelry (or hair/makeup or shoes) intended to be worn for the wedding are not considered appropriate gifts. If you can be 100% certain that your girls will wear the piece over and over again and you’re comfortable with that then go ahead, but more often than not an accessory for the wedding is just for the wedding.
So for my BMs I got them each a Kate Spade cosmetic bag as their gift (which I’ll fill with goodies: candy, day-of items like bobby pins, random stuff) and then I happened upon a pair of earrings I liked so I bought those as well. I’ll give them both together, but I only consider the cosmetic bag a “gift.”
Post # 7
@Ohiogal1201: I voted for unique, but I rather meant personal or tailored for each bridesmaid. For example, if you are getting jewelry it doesn’t have to be the same for each girl. Choose what she would like in regards to style or color.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I did “super fancy” hotel bags, and paid for hair/makeup. I gave them the choice if they wanted jewelry or hair/makeup and both instantly said beauty.
Post # 9
i think jewelery is a great gift, but not jewelery for the wedding specifically.
I got each of my girls a necklace with their birthstone as a gemstone pendant! They were like $20 on Amazon.
Post # 10
I would personally feel guilty if I knew the bride, who was already doing so much work, had to go out of her way to get personalized gifts for each bridesmaid when I already consider it a gift to be selected as one and appear next to her on her special day. Something for each of the bridesmaids for the wedding is more than appreciated!
Post # 11
@Ohiogal1201: I’m getting mind unique gifts, individual to them.
I’m getting one of them a thin, plain gold band, as she’s wanted one for ages; no idea what I’m getting the others yet, probably jewellery for 2 of them, and Lego for the 4th.
Post # 12
I agree with PPs that anything intended to be worn on your wedding day isn’t really a gift for them since it’s more about your vision and the look you want. I think you should do more personalized gifts – as in shop like it’s their birthday, not here’s a bunch of stuff with their initials on it.
For our wedding, both H and I did a combination of the above. We got each member of the bridal party something different that we thought they’d like (ex: Leatherman, cam, baseball jersey, photo album). We also got all the Groomsmen matching U of M socks and the BMs all got pashminas in our wedding colors.
I think jewelry would be a lovely idea so long as it’s to each girls’ taste.
Post # 13
@Horseradish: I think that’s a great idea – to shop for them like it’s their birthday. I had never thought of it that way. I think it will definitely help me find something for them moving forward.
Post # 14
I actually don’t mind jelwery for the wedding. I have had multiple brides go this route, and I wear a lot of it on a regular basis. I’m wearing one necklace that a bride gave me today. It’s my favorite, and I always get compliments on it. Also, its one less thing I need to spend money on for a wedding.
That said, I think having an “and” to jewlery is nice, but there is so much pressure on a “unique gift that each girl can enjoy.” There was an article on it that I can’t seem to find now. It was talking about how the pressure to find a different gift for every person is actually counter productive to getting a gift that everyone would like. Their example was not getting one of your kids an iPad because you got your other kid an iPad and it may seem like copying. If both your kids want an iPad, get them both an iPad. If all of your bridesmaids want a necklace and earings, get them a necklace and earings. I’ll be throwing in gift cards for my local bridesmaids to the same resteraunt, because they all love it. Why get person A a gift card to a resteraunt they like less because I’m getting it for person B?
Post # 15
@Little_Nut88: this is also a great idea – something unique for each of them – and something they can all appreciate. I’ve already made them hangers with their names. I just have a hold up on the idea that everyone gets the same necklace. I know I’ve never worn mine since the wedding. So your idea is a good one. Thanks!
Post # 16
@luluvohn: Kate Spade has some really cute stuff for bridesmaids. Do you know how expensive these bags were? Can you post a link?