Post # 1
I’m getting married in less than 50 days and am wondering if any married bees have any advice on what they would have done differently on their wedding day (or days leading up to it) if they could go back now?
I’m almost through with the planning, but am still not sure how the day-of is going to go and what mistakes to avoid.
Thanks for the advice!
Post # 2
I would have dancing. I didn’t and that’s the biggest regret!
Post # 3
I would have allowed a bit of time at the end of getting ready to just sit for a while with a glass of champagne. It all ended up being a bit rushed. Nothing really went wrong for me, I was very lucky – the day happened pretty much exactly as I imagined it. Everyone says make sure you spend enough time with your new husband, but we didn’t really have to try – we just naturally seemed to be together most of the day. Oh, I would have hidden our edible chocolate favours until later on because nearly all our greedy guests wolfed them down as soon as they were seated. I scolded my sister and she said with a full mouth “I’m not even hungry. But chocolate”
Things I was glad about – I took 2 days off before the wedding. One day was an organisation day, and one day was just a chill out day. I’m very glad I did that. I put my feet up and got a takeout and watched daytime TV before the madness started the next day.
And shoes – I was always of the school of thought that I didn’t care about shoes, nobody saw them, I would just wear Converse. In the end I did get sparkly girly shoes and I’m glad I did because SO many people asked to see them. That was weird. (I did change into Converse later on though)
Post # 4
Hold bouquet lower. Practice smiling for photos. In my case, hire different photographer. Lolol. But yeah, make sure you take a moment to really take it all in. It goes so fast so take a moment to form a solid memory.
Post # 5
Definitely I would have gotten a different photographer/videographer, at least I should have done more research. The video of my ceremony is so bad it’s very upsetting, I’m working on getting compensated for that.. Definitely agree with the above take it all in, make sure you and hubby spend time together just enjoying this special day together, and don’t sweat the little things. There are a few small things I would change, but they don’t really matter too much. Your day will be perfect no matter what! 🙂
Post # 6
Hold your bouqet lower! 🙂
I don’t have many regrets at all. I really did have the best day of my life! Make sure you EAT dinner and don’t be worred about drinking to much (if you drink). It is the biggest party of your life so hubs and I feel proud when we say we got toasted (tasteful, not sloppy) at our wedding. We really had such a great time with friends and family. (Our friends and family love a good party and so do we)
HappySky7: YAS. And hire a different photographer….
Post # 7
I would have spent more time at our cocktail hour. My husband and I planned to spend the first few minutes alone on a quick horse drawn carriage ride and then join our guests at cocktail hour. But our photographer found a great spot for photos while we were out and 40 minutes later… we hardly had a chance to say hi to everyone.
Post # 8
I wouldve made sure the best man had the rings…lol
Post # 9
I would of went around to our guests at their tables more. By the time we had dinner, both of us were starving and needed to eat. Most of our guests left earlier then we thought so we didn’t have much time to speak with them.
Post # 10
ladylawyer: I would have drank more… as in water! I had not drank enough and ended up with major toe cramps mid-dance.
I would have had us be introduced before dinner. We were going to, but just decided to go right into prayer once we saw everyone was seated, and then dinner was served. We had a fmaily only ceremony and a large reception… so for those who may not have known our wedding party (just our siblings and DH’s BIL), it would have been nice to have them introduced. One of DH’s cousins would have done it.
I would have taken some photos in the hotel that our recerption was in. We got a lot of candid shots of people, which was fun… like most of DH’s extended family in the bar. But, some photos of just us would have been cool – although our photog prefers outdoor to indoor pics.
Spent more time at certain tables… but I do think I did my best!
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2017 - Nashville, TN
Made more time for pictures and had a receiving line. We started going table to table and it took to long. After 4 tables we had to move on to other things. I didn’t get a chance to say hi to a lot of our guests. I still feel guilty about it.
Post # 12
ladylawyer: I forgot to have the hair people put on my veil, so my mom and I were scrambling to find bobby pins and affix it in the moments before I walked down the aisle.
We also totally forgot to put out the aisle runner, so I would have just not bought that.
I’m glad I splurged for pretty chairs; they made our photos come out so pinterest-y and I loved them. It’s silly, but I’m glad we spent the money on it.
Post # 13
I would never, ever have taken my shoes off! Also when my veil blew out, I should have thrown it back on. I look like a little kid in our “after” photos with the family. Oops. I might have also asked my sister not to change – she felt bad about it later though I didn’t care at the time. Same reason: we both thought photos were done for the night.
Also, if you gave your photographer a list of ‘must haves’ make sure they follow through – check off items on a list of your own or ask someone else to help with that. Our photographer never took a pic of my husband with just his parents, of all things! I’m really disappointed about that, as she got a fabulous one of me with mine.
Post # 14
I would have written a list of all the things we wanted to bring with us to the wedding.
Post # 15
ladylawyer: for the most part everything went smoothly bc I went in with expectations that everything wont be perfect. BUT, I wish I had a better idea of how long my makeup/hair would take and change around my schedule for me to finish before a couple of my ladies. For some reason in my head I wanted to be last and most fresh … Bad idea, we ran a little late and was the only moment of the day I felt stressed.