(Closed) What would you NOT want as part of your ring?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 47
947 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m not a huge fan of yellow gold or anything excessively gaudy.


I’m also not big on white diamonds. I like a splash of color. My first e-ring was a sapphire in white gold, but I lost weight and it fell off. ๐Ÿ™ My replacement is a garnet.

Post # 48
765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Yellow gold, princess or marquise cuts, channel-set diamonds, mixed metals or wide bands are all no-go for me. SO had a very good idea of what I wanted, but instead of getting it at the chain retailer we had gone to together, he had it made at a local jeweller that a friend of a friend owns ๐Ÿ™‚ NOW I’M JUST WAITING FOR IT….

Post # 49
2143 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’m not a fan of halos, so thats really the only thing that I would not want ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 50
1035 posts
Bumble bee

Hmm.. probably no yellow or rose gold.. no halos.. and nothing that sits too high/sticks out too much.

Post # 51
60 posts
Worker bee

If I received CZ, I would just pay to have a jeweler replace it with a stone I liked more at a later date. CZ makes sense if the proposal happens on a cruise or vacation where you have a greater risk of losing the ring, especially if it isn’t sized. For someone that sells jewlery, I don’t seem to have many preferences…

Post # 52
463 posts
Helper bee

Nothing that sticks up too high, I’d snag it on everything

No heart-shaped stones

There are some colors that I wouldn’t prefer

Mostly this thread is killing me with curiosity… I don’t have many specific preferences beyond “pretty” at this point, and I’m hoping not to develop any since my boyfriend would probably give me his late mother’s ring when the time comes. I have NO IDEA what it looks like and can usually suppress my curiosity, but at the moment I’m dying to know!

Post # 53
1143 posts
Bumble bee

no yellow gold, no cluster, no three stone, no princess cut. I want at least a carat center stone…even though Future Mother-In-Law says that’s quite large.

Post # 54
4042 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would not want someone else’s ring. No heirloom or family jewelry, it could be estate jewlelry, but not something that belonged to family. 


Post # 55
1019 posts
Bumble bee

If we were closer to getting engaged right now, these would be my list of no-nos:

– diamond center stones (I don’t feel as if diamonds are a good value for one’s money. I would probably be alright with moissanite because it’s less expensive, but it wouldn’t be my preference, either).
– a platinum setting (At this point, it wouldn’t make any sense financially. I’d have fewer qualms once DBF and I become more established, but I still prefer gold due to the greater variety of metal colors).

Otherwise, there isn’t anything I’d be adamantly against. I prefer gems that are equivalent to a carat or more; I prefer bolder jewelry and I have larger hands (my ring size is an 8.5 – I have larger fingers than DBF and my palm is similar in size to my dad’s, and he weighs well over 300 pounds). Since we won’t go with diamonds, a larger stone size would fit into our budget more easily. Also, there aren’t any shapes or styles I’d turn down – pave bands, and to a lesser extent, halos, aren’t my favorite, but I could grow to love one.

Thankfully this won’t be much of a problem – DBF and I agreed that I’d give him a ring of my choice to use as an engagement ring one day. Currently, said ring is an RHR. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 56
430 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m pretty picky, so here goes

-no halo

-not to blingy (pave or channel set stones all the way around band or something)

-no marchaise cut

-nothing over 1 carat

-no yellow gold

Even the yellow gold one is not 100%, I could probably be happy with it, just really prefer white gold.  Everything else, while it might not be my ideal, is something I could live with.

Post # 57
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014



Any stone that is not a diamond

yellow gold

any stone bigger then 1.5c

side stones


I like simple the best!

Post # 58
26 posts
  • Wedding: December 2014

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ding ding ding! We have winner for worst engagement ring!

Post # 59
6488 posts
Bee Keeper

It would probably be quicker to list what I wanted lol, but, here’s what I didn’t want, since that was the question:

Non-white metal (eg yellow gold)

Coloured stones: white stones were a must



Heart/marquis/pear/square shaped stone: I only like round stones or oval ones


Clusters designed to look like one stone (I do actually have a cluster, but the stones are distinct ie they’re not ‘trying’ to look like a single stone)

Channel set diamonds on the band (I prefer pave)

Something that wasn’t durable (eg a soft stone or metal)

Anything too modern (I prefer antique styles)

‘Lop-sided’ band

Post # 60
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I’ve always disliked marquis-cut diamonds (I prefer round or square), but my fiancé got me one (I didn’t help him pick the ring at all). I disliked it at first, but I’ve grown to love it, and I honestly wouldn’t want any other ring. On that note, I don’t like yellow gold or heart-shaped diamonds. I’ve seen gorgeous rings with both, but it isn’t my style. 

Post # 61
1250 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I did NOT want (and didn’t get):

Princess cut

Trillion cut

Champagne diamond

No cluster

No three stone

No CZ (I love sapphires, tanzanite, iolite, emerald, ruby, moissanite, diamond- he had a range of everything but CZ).

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