Post # 1
I guess this is really more for Bees planning to have kids or with pre-verbal babies, but established parents are welcome to contribute. Mother’s Day brought this subject up for me. I’ve personally been on Team Mama for most of my life (because it’s what I call my mother), but for some reason being called Mommy has been appealing to me lately. The poll is geared toward Western, female-identifying bees, but I’d also love to hear from any international or non-Western Bees about what pet names children have for their mothers in their languages/cultures. And of course if there are any future dads out there, feel free to chime in, as well as any non-binary future parents :).
Post # 2
No preference. My son is 1.5 and hearing his little “MAMA! MAMA!” makes my heart completely melt. Soooo sweet! I assume it’ll be the same if he changes the name at some point, too. I call myself mama and mommy interchangeably to him.
Post # 4
I call myself mummy and my son calls me that (when he’s not Princess Elsa and I’m Princess Anna). My daughter is 15 months so is still on mama.
When my son was younger he called us Memaa and Dedaa which we really loved but he grew out of that one.
Post # 5
I’m Pakistani. The two typical terms are Mama (pronounces either Ma-Ma or Mum-Ma) and Ammi.
For dads, the terms are either Papa (pronounces Pup-pa), Baba, or Abbu.
Most people use the “set”. So Ammi/Abbu or Mama + Papa/Baba
I grew up with saying Mama and Papa. Ideally I’d like my child to use Mama and Baba (SO likes Baba) but we will see how it goes!
Post # 6
Not a parent yet but I don’t have a preference. Whatever they choose to call me is fine.
I never called my own parents mommy/daddy. I’ve always called my mom, mom. I called my dad papa when I was really (even my parents have no idea where I got that lol) and once that faded I’ve always called him dad.
My in-laws refer to my husband and myself as “mommy” and “daddy” when talking to our dog and I fucking hate that. It’s weird and I think slightly creepy given that I know they’ve never heard us use those terms with our dog. I don’t think I’ll hate it if our future kid decides to use either of those though.
Post # 7
My daughter is almost 3 and she calls me mama, mommy, and mom depending on the day – typically “mama” only happens when she’s super duper upset or she’s pretending to be a baby. When she’s feeling sassy she uses our first names hahahaha
Post # 8
I feel like i changes as your kids age. My son called me mama until about 2, and now it’s mummy. My daughter is 20 months, still says Mama.
I anticipate as they grow it will become mom eventually.
Post # 9
lol, I’m occasionally “Mommy” to my animals, but only in the case of, “Mommy needs a minute” or “Mommy needs a cocktail,” or occasionally, “Okay, I guess we need to be on Mommy’s shoulder while
she’s on the toilet….” i.e., when they’re being loud/intrusive.
I grew up calling my parents Mama and Papa well into teenagerhood, but I was made fun of for it constantly (I guess it sounded too baby-ish/”foreign” up here in Massachusetts), so I eventually switched to Mum and Dad. I kind of wish I hadn’t let those assholes get to me.
Post # 10
I’m a mama because that’s what she can say. But she went through a phase where all women (in this case myself and her grandma who are her main care providers) were Mama and men (her father and grandfather) were daddy. She’s started saying Papa for her grandfather a few times so I think she’s starting to differentiate different people with different names.
I’d like to stay Mama but I imagine I’ll be Mommy for a while as that’s what my husband refers to me as to her. In the south Mama is acceptable at any age and I prefer it over just Mom.
Post # 11
I went through a thing at about a year old where all women other than my mother were “nurse” (as in breastfeeding). I straight-up identified women by their breasts and how useful they might be to me. Men were just….”not nurse”, I guess. Taking me on the subway was kind of cringey for my parents, what with me pointing at every woman who got on the train and shouting “NURSE!” in my high-pitched little voice.
Post # 13
I’ve grown out of it. Mostly. 🙂
Post # 14
I prefer mom, but I’m hardly going to complain if he calls me mommy instead. Heck even when he calls me by my first name it makes me smile. He’s only two so I know he’s just sort of testing the waters there
Post # 15
Younger children, Mommy. Older children, Mom.