(Closed) What would you rather have in-laws pay for??!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What would you rather have your future in-laws pay for?
    Alcohol : (10 votes)
    13 %
    All flowers and a professional decorator : (9 votes)
    12 %
    Rehearsal Dinner : (13 votes)
    17 %
    Honeymoon-up to $5,000 : (45 votes)
    58 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    The honeymoon!

    Unless that doesn’t count as a wedding item.

    Ummm…. maybe the band? Or if you are not going a band then the food?

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Photography

     

    EDIT: I voted “Honeymoon”.

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    My in laws paid for our honeymoon and achohol.

    Post # 7
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    140 posts
    Blushing bee

    Decor can get really expensive.  But I’ll take what ever they offer.  It’s a gift and it’s not up to me to tell them what to give us.

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’d have to go with rehearsal dinner because we haven’t really budgeted for that and I keep hoping they’ll offer. 🙂 I would have said alcohol but they don’t approve of drinking so that would never happen. Would be sweet to actually be able to afford open bar, though.

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i would probably choose the booze. that won’t happen, because fmil thinks we should have a cash bar. they’re paying for the florist instead plus a couple of smaller things.

    i would like if they paid for a honeymoon, but they kind of are because they’re paying for us to go to a Destination Wedding one month later.

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’d pick whatever’s going to cost the most!  Not to be grubby about it, but money is interchangeable, so anything they spend money on is funds that I can use out of my own pocket for something else.

    Though I do have this weird distaste for anything that’s a wedding tradition, so them paying for the alcohol or rehearsal dinner makes me slightly uncomfortable.

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    it’s more meaningful to give a ‘trip’ as opposed to alcohol, flowers, etc.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    HONEYMOON!

    Alcohol woulda been my second choice, but my parents are paying for that one (yay!).

    Post # 13
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    HM!! My FIL’s are paying for our rehearsal dinner and flowers but if they would have offered the Honeymoon I would have totally done something simple for the Rehearsal Dinner and paid for the flowers ourselves.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Stupid iPhone. Double post!

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’d say the honeymoon or the rehersal dinner.

    Money always comes with strings attached so if you want to make sure you don’t have to worry about other people’s opinions for your wedding then let them pay for something that isn’t and actual part of the wedding. YOU may think that $5/piece for chaivari chairs is a good deal but if your future in-laws don’t agree you may be forced to make changes, if they want to plan something – let them pay for the Rehearsal Dinner, if they just want to gift you some money – I’d say use it for the honeymoon.

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