Post # 1
So the other day my mom was visiting and her and my 4 year old daughter were playing while I was cleaning. My 4 year old snuck off and went snooping in my bedroom. Her and my mom come walking out, my mom laughing and my 4 year old says “What’s this momma?” holding a condom (unused and in the wrapper still of course) . I didn’t know what to say.
So I told her it was a diaper for grown up boys. What else could I say? She has found my pads before and asked about them and I told her they were grown up girls diapers so I figured boys need diapers too right?
What would you have said if your 4 year old asked you this?
Post # 3
@pinkgreenandyellow: Hmm. That’s tough because she is so young. I think you said the right thing. I would have said “It’s daddys special balloon.” but that could have turned out worse lol
Post # 4
@pinkgreenandyellow: haha, you did way better than me, I wouldnt even know what the heck to say other than “stay out of mommys room!!!” Lol
Post # 5
There is another current thread about talking to children about sex.
I’m in the camp of talking to children about things honestly as they grow up. Answer the questions they ask, not the ones you think they are asking
This incident gives you a perfect opportunity to give her information in tiny little bits but you have to be honest.
“It’s a condom. Parents use it when they are not ready to have another baby.”
Giving misinformation just means you are going to have to correct misunderstandings at a later date.
Post # 6
I do plan to be open with her but at what age I’m not sure. She believes babies come from the belly button (she asked this question when she was 2 1/2) but I know I’ll need to tell her everything eventually, just not sure which age is appropriate to start the talking
Post # 7
I would say, “Oh, that’s just something mommy and daddy use sometimes. I’m going to go put it away now. ” Not a lie at all, but doesn’t give more information than she needs to know at this point.
I think sex should be explained in full before the other things that go along with it are explained.
Post # 8
That its a condom….and mommy and daddy use it to keep from having another baby. That it is very important and she should go put it back. She dosn’t need to know anything more then that just yet.
Post # 9
I agree that its best to be honest and straightforward, even at a young age. My sisters and I discussed this recently because a friend of ours calls her daughter’s privates a woohoo. Its a vagina people! I have a daughter and nanny for 5 kids. Kids appreciate honesty.
Post # 10
@pinkgreenandyellow: I don’t know what I’d say to the comment – but your comment about pads being a grown-up diaper made me think about a personal experience. My mom told me the same thing about pads – I’m not sure if she let me wear one or if I took the liberty of taking one and wearing it – but I did and then had to pee – and used it as a diaper! I recall being embarrassed and astonished when it didn’t ‘work’ well.
Post # 11
@oracle: lol that’s great! Hope my kid doesn’t try that, will make quite a mess