Post # 1
Since I paid for all my bridesmaids’ dresses (and I am not expecting them to get their hair, makeup, or nails done) is it ok for me to ask them to buy their shoes? I originally wanted to pick a pair for them that was under $50, but I found a great pair that matches their dresses perfectly. They are made by Guess, nude-colored, and peep-toe styled pumps. They are $69.99.
I showed the pair to 2 of my bridesmaids, one of them said, “If they are only $69.99 they must not be comfortable” (she has an expensive shoe collection) and the other bridesmaid said, “It was so nice of you to pay for our dresses! The least we can do is buy these shoes.”
To me, $69 is a chunk of money, so I’m wondering if I should I pay for half? Pick a different shoe? Please don’t suggest letting them wear their own shoes, because I have already decided that I want all the shoes to match. 🙂
Post # 3
@ChampagneBlushWedding: It seems to me that neither of them have a problem with actually paying (whether or not they like them is another story) so I think you’re ok.
Post # 4
normally, i would say $69 is a lot of money for bridesmaid shoes. but i guess if you paid for their dresses and they don’t mind, then go for it.
Post # 5
Given that they haven’t paid for anything else, I think it’s absolutely ok to ask them to buy specific shoes. And $70 is a totally fair price for shoes.
Post # 6
I agree that if I were a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a wedding and the bride bought my dress, and there wasn’t some other sort of excessive cost involved, I would have no problem paying that for shoes. I’ve paid more for a dress and shoes that I haven’t worn again.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I think it’s less about price and more about comfort. I am the crankiest person alive when my feet hurt, and don’t have the easiest time finding shoes that are comfy and pretty, so I would much rather a bride told me what dress to wear than what shoes to wear. Is there a particular reason why you want the BMs to all wear the same shoe?
Post # 8
Ooooo…I don’t know, I am a nazi about what I put on my feet…and maybe I’m psychotic, but $69 for a pair of shoes that I’m going to be photographed in sounds a little low end….after all, we’re talking SHOES people!
Post # 9
That is a LOT of money for something they may never wear again. But since you are paying for everything else, I could see it being okay.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t have been happy with it, but because you are paying for so much, I’d be fine.
Post # 11
@Nona99: Haha. They are nude-colored Guess pumps, what are your thoughts on those?
Post # 12
@RoyalLime: They are nude pumps, so I would hope that they wear them again!
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Post # 14
I think it’s fine to ask them to pay for them. My girls’ shoes are aorund $60 and I’m picking up the cost, but they paid over $200 for their dresses, not to mention travel expenses, etc. It’s the least I could do since I can afford it. They all expected to pay for them though and all offered to but I refused.
Post # 15
I’d be pretty annoyed. I don’t like other people picking out my shoes and I don’t think I’d ever wear nude sling backs again. Might as well just shove $70 into the back of my closet.
Post # 16
@ChampagneBlushWedding: They sound worth every penny! $70 is really not bad, especially for something neutral that can be reworn. For a wedding I was in, the bride asked us to get any nude shoe we liked, so I could have gone to Payless for $20 shoes but I wanted something nice in nude so I spent $120 – you don’t need to cheap out, especially be abuse they aren’t dyed peacock teal or anything 🙂