(Closed) What would you think if bride wore 2 'weddingy' wedding dresses?

• KinkyOrange
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@Audrey2:  Well, I think my ceremony dress is very nice as well. I didn’t choose it ONLY for other people, you know? Just with them in mind. I’ve been back and forward on it… do I love it… do I not love it… but that was for other reasons really. I’m going to have to have alterations done anyway, and hopefully I’ll be totally in love with it when they are done. But whether I love it or not, if it’s a hot day then I will boil half to death in it, for sure!

@EnglishWifey:  “I wanted to look demure without TOO much sex appeal.” This was my dilemma as well! I did wonder if my ceremony dress was too conservative for ages, but then I lost weight and the neckline dropped a bit, so it looked better. I was worried that it made me look old for a bit, but I don’t any more.

• Audrey2
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2014

@Rachel631:  I’m glad you like your ceremony dress as well, I misunderstood that bit! 🙂

• BluePeaches
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: February 2013

@EnglishWifey:  I don’t think the bottom dress looks too wedding-y, so its good for the reception. As long as you are not being cheap on the reception because you bought a second dress then who cares!

• WestCoast
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: August 2013

Generally people who change during their wedding day are people from another culture and they change into the trasitional wear for part of it. I think 2 wedding dresses that are both very wedding-y is too much. I would wear he first one for all of it. 

• RunsWithBears
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2012

Unless it’s done for cultural reasons, I don’t really get 2nd wedding dresses.  It seems terribly impractical and a bit princess-y (like when you were little and wanted to wear all the pretty dresses).  I don’t understand why you wouldn’t just pick one dress that you could wear for the entire time.

 

Having said that though, I think a going away dress is ok.  If you changed into a dress 1 (maybe 2 tops) hours before the end of the reception that wouldn’t seem as bad to me.

PS: I do think both of those dresses are beautiful!

• SR
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: August 2014

Its your wedding, I’d say do what you like. Lots of people change into a different dress for the reception; I have a second dress (a shorter dress) for my reception too.

• KinkyOrange
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@EnglishWifey:  “photobooth, 2 favours per guests, 3 course meal, band, DJ, candy floss!” So jealous! We wanted all that stuff but we couldn’t afford it. I couldn’t believe the prices of live bands… they were all over £1,000!

I understand your issue with the church attire… it’s really hard to find a balance, modesty wise. On the one hand, you want to be demure and not have your tits pop out whilst in the middle of singing “All things bright and beautiful”, but on the other hand then you’re getting married, not entering a nunnery!

One of FI’s friends is an Anglican priest, and they’re getting married in a cathedral. When his missus went shopping for wedding dresses then the shop assistant asked her where she was getting married. She said “X cathedral” and the assistant went bright red and said “you can’t wear any of these dresses then!” before going into the back and bringing out a load of dresses with polo necks. The bride was like “uh, he has seen my collarbones before. I mean, I think that everyone knows that I have a neck… they probably won’t faint if they see it…”

A-w-k-w-a-r-d

• beesbelle
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: January 2015

I think it’s fine to change into a more comfortable and less formal gown to dance and enjoy yourself in!

• canarydiamond
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: December 2013

@EnglishWifey:  My view is that as long as you can afford it, and it’s a high priority for you, you should do it. It’s your day.

Yeah, having two dresses is pretty extravagant, but then again, no one NEEDS a fancy wedding… so the whole thing is pretty “first world” or whatever.

• queenbee33
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: February 2014

@EnglishWifey:   I love both of your dresses.   I am also wearing a 2nd dress for similar reasons.   We are having a destination wedding but I fell in love with a gown that is a fit and flare and very heavy.  I didn’t want to give up my dream dress or our  dream location so I’m going to make both work…to do that…I will change.  Our reception is also outdoors so I will be changing into a light weight chiffon gown at some point.  I’m considering changing before the cake cutting so  there will be some formal pics in the 2nd dress.   I am finding that there is always someone who is going to have something to say about every choice we make from the venue to the flowers. It’s your wedding…do what will make you happy and your day feel special. 

 

• DaisyBelle
• 8 years ago

It IS up to you, but since you asked for opinions from those who think it’s over-the-top: seems to me to be a lot of money spent when you won’t get to wear either dress for very long, both are long elaborate dresses – so why do you need both? – if you really wanted two why not get a short casual one for later?, and bottom line there are SO many dresses out there to choose from that it seems ridiculous to not be able to pick one.  Pick one style and rock the socks out of it!  My two cents.  Also, the comment about J.Lo’s Miss Thang wedding – nailed it.  

These are my opinions and i hope I didn’t offend you – you asked!  🙂  In the end – if it makes you happy then screw what everyone thinks.