- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013 - UK
Generally people who change during their wedding day are people from another culture and they change into the trasitional wear for part of it. I think 2 wedding dresses that are both very wedding-y is too much. I would wear he first one for all of it.
I understand what your saying, and in general I hope I have managed to get everything we as a couple would like for the day. I just hope no guests think ” Hmm she has 2 dresses and we don’t even get caviar and a full lobster each, how very rude!” hehe. But on a serious note, yeh we have everything else including lot’s of extras such as a photobooth, 2 favours per guests, 3 course meal, band, DJ, candy floss!
Unless it’s done for cultural reasons, I don’t really get 2nd wedding dresses. It seems terribly impractical and a bit princess-y (like when you were little and wanted to wear all the pretty dresses). I don’t understand why you wouldn’t just pick one dress that you could wear for the entire time.
Having said that though, I think a going away dress is ok. If you changed into a dress 1 (maybe 2 tops) hours before the end of the reception that wouldn’t seem as bad to me.
PS: I do think both of those dresses are beautiful!
Its your wedding, I’d say do what you like. Lots of people change into a different dress for the reception; I have a second dress (a shorter dress) for my reception too.
The cultural thing isn’t the reason, only that the church would not be a fitting place to show a lot of cleveage so I opted for a higher neckline with the first dress, but allowed for a lower cut with the second one.
I understand your issue with the church attire… it’s really hard to find a balance, modesty wise. On the one hand, you want to be demure and not have your tits pop out whilst in the middle of singing “All things bright and beautiful”, but on the other hand then you’re getting married, not entering a nunnery!
One of FI’s friends is an Anglican priest, and they’re getting married in a cathedral. When his missus went shopping for wedding dresses then the shop assistant asked her where she was getting married. She said “X cathedral” and the assistant went bright red and said “you can’t wear any of these dresses then!” before going into the back and bringing out a load of dresses with polo necks. The bride was like “uh, he has seen my collarbones before. I mean, I think that everyone knows that I have a neck… they probably won’t faint if they see it…”
I’m a bit crazy when it comes to getting my whole wedding in at a reasonable price so I wouldn’t have bought 2 dresses without making sure it was covered in our budget. People will never know that unless they ask me but I guess there is nothing I can do to stop people presuming!
I think it’s fine to change into a more comfortable and less formal gown to dance and enjoy yourself in!
@EnglishWifey: My view is that as long as you can afford it, and it’s a high priority for you, you should do it. It’s your day.
Yeah, having two dresses is pretty extravagant, but then again, no one NEEDS a fancy wedding… so the whole thing is pretty “first world” or whatever.
@EnglishWifey: I love both of your dresses. I am also wearing a 2nd dress for similar reasons. We are having a destination wedding but I fell in love with a gown that is a fit and flare and very heavy. I didn’t want to give up my dream dress or our dream location so I’m going to make both work…to do that…I will change. Our reception is also outdoors so I will be changing into a light weight chiffon gown at some point. I’m considering changing before the cake cutting so there will be some formal pics in the 2nd dress. I am finding that there is always someone who is going to have something to say about every choice we make from the venue to the flowers. It’s your wedding…do what will make you happy and your day feel special.
It IS up to you, but since you asked for opinions from those who think it’s over-the-top: seems to me to be a lot of money spent when you won’t get to wear either dress for very long, both are long elaborate dresses – so why do you need both? – if you really wanted two why not get a short casual one for later?, and bottom line there are SO many dresses out there to choose from that it seems ridiculous to not be able to pick one. Pick one style and rock the socks out of it! My two cents. Also, the comment about J.Lo’s Miss Thang wedding – nailed it.
These are my opinions and i hope I didn’t offend you – you asked! 🙂 In the end – if it makes you happy then screw what everyone thinks.
Haha I guess if people think I’m ‘Miss Thang’ then they don’t know me (you guys don’t know me which is why you have every right to say that, I’m not offended) so I’m not worried there.
I don’t think wearing a dress for 9 hours is a short amount of time though? 11am-8pm then the 2nd dress 8pm-11pm. That percentage of time also reflects the amount of money I spent on the dresses so I’m pretty happy with the amount of time each dress get’s in the spotlight
My view on not being able to find just one dress was…there are SO many dresses! This dress is perfect for the church, day, meal and THIS dress is perfect for the dancing and ‘going away’. I spent x amount on the first dress which means I can use the extra bugdeted money for the second dress. Woohoo
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