What would/did you do?

posted 2 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

mackayk :  do you mean ceremony or reception a week later?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

mackayk :  I think if you’re going to spend $12k on a reception, why not just delay a bit and put that dollar amount toward the wedding? I don’t know – I’m a budget bride myself, but I don’t see the sense in doing a destination wedding then reception at home in an effort to reduce cost, but it still ends up being $12k. Whereas the full wedding experience would be $18k. Either have the full wedding and reception experience for $18k. OR have the destination wedding and a low key BBQ backyard reception (I would call it a celebration and totally disconnect it from the wedding, by the way) for super cheap to the tune of $1.5-2K. That makes more sense to me.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

mackayk :  Can you help me understand where the savings comes from? The ceremony is usually the least expensive part, so I’m not picturing how the DW+at-home reception is going to cost $12-15 and doing the whole shebang locally would be $18-20. Couldn’t you put the money you’d be using for travel towards a local ceremony instead, and then have the same reception? That seems like it would be the same cost or maybe even less than the DW+reception later.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

mackayk :  I don’t think that’s how it works. I know there’s the whole “wedding premium” but that’s because people generally expect better service or considerations for a wedding. If you’re fine with the level of service you’d get without the “wedding premium”, just get your quotes as if you were having the Destination Wedding first, accept the quotes, then book the church. I’m always one of the people saying “don’t lie or mislead your vendors” but I see this more as research. Either they’re going to quote you the same price regardless of whether you get married the week before or an hour before, or they’ll quote a different price. Accept the quote and then based on that research, decide if you want to pay an additional $3500 for the Destination Wedding, or an additional $1200 for the local church wedding. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee

Why do people potentially have to take vacation days off work and spend hundreds to thousand of dollars on flights and hotel rooms to do this?  Are you not allowed to have ceremonies with less than 145 people in attendance and can only have them in churches in New England?  And do you not have steak houses in New England?

 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

mackayk :  do not make your guests travel to witness your ceremony just so you can save money.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Why not simply cut the guest list to a number that works with your $15k budget? This way you can have the ceremony and reception at home. I wouldn’t have family spend money on a destination wedding just to save a couple thousand. 

Post # 14
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Honey bee

Except that you aren’t required to invite everyone just because you are local.  You’re allowed to just invite 10 people to your ceremony regardless of how many people you know or where they are located

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Stating that you’re paying for your families to attend the Destination Wedding would have been helpful in the OP. If none of your guests have an issue attending a marriage celebration then go for it. I’d just do the Destination Wedding with immediate family and call it a day but if people need the expensive party then ok.

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