Post # 46
ktsteimel: I know, right?! JFC.
OP, just because this girl isn’t smacking you in the face right now doesn’t mean she doesn’t secretly want to. And rightfully so.
And yes, agree with PPs. Under 1000 calories a day is disordered eating. Funny how you don’t even consider that “dieting.”
You’re totally right though, starve yourself and the weight just falls right off! It’s like magic! Sorry, not gonna give you a pat on the back for it.
Post # 47
WesterosBarbie: “If the roles were reversed, I’d invoke sympathy and “Keep trying!” posts. What IS with that?”
If the roles were reversed we would all be saying the same thing: stop creepily monitoring what other people eat/how much they weigh, and stop comparing yourself to them. Your post has a very strong holier than thou attitude, which is what most people are picking up on and criticizing.
Post # 48
“SHE’S the one who has to bring in a chair to sit down while working, lol. I can stand the whole day. It had nothing to do with looks and everything to do with feeling good. Just because someone puts in the time at the gym it doesn’t mean it’s time well spent. I know her workouts, her cardio just isn’t intense enough.”
How do you not realize how awful you sound? You just said that her time at the gym is not well spent. Ya know what, at least she gets up and goes to the gym. You may not think it’s “well spent” because the weight isn’t just falling off of her like it is you with your diet but that doesn’t mean you get to sit around and degrade her efforts. She’s making an effort, she’s getting her butt in the gym every day and working out whether you deem her work outs to be good enough or not.
You on the other hand are starving yourself and then bragging about how much weight you have lost. She might have to bring a chair in to sit down on but at least she doesn’t have to talk trash about her co-workers weight on the internet to make herself feel good.
Once you take that stick out of your ass feel free to take several seats, OP.
Post # 49
WesterosBarbie: oh, the problem is that we are too sensitive and you’re “superior”. Got it. Lol.
Post # 50
slomotion: “Once u take that stick out of your ass feel free to take several seats”
Well, damn! 😂
Post # 51
In the first post I was with you mostly… then the 1000 calories as NOT DIETING (lol) came out, then the superiority and judgement for your coworker….the fixation on control…. and now Im sad I put the first response in here lol. Id like to withdraw my first response and switch to this:
Post # 52
slomotion: One small correction.
“You may not think it’s “well spent” because the weight isn’t just falling off of her like it is you with your diet“
OP is not on a diet. She is starving herself. Anyone who uses a calorie tracking app to monitor their calorie intake will know that most apps will notify you that eating under 1000 calories a day is not healthy or sustainable.
OP: I’m all for healthy eating and fitness and I think people should make an effort to keep themselves active and healthy, but you’re being straight up nasty. Your co-worker is working out and if it isn’t working (I personally know how frustrating that can be) it’s up to her to figure it out.
Maybe you lost some brain cells and empathy along with the weight? I certainly hope you haven’t always been this way and that this is a personality trait you can correct going forward.
Post # 53
I’m really sad she saw the thread but OP’s coworker, keep it up! You are doing amazingly. I love food too. It’s not a bad thing!!
Post # 54
The fact that you describe yourself as ‘superior’ highlights your juvenility. I think you’re probably quite unpleasant in real life. Oh and no body cares as much as you do about your weight loss.
Post # 55
A11eycat: You’re completly right. Its not a diet. Its starvation.
Post # 56
A11eycat: Me thinks she has always been this way….
“I’d rather have a hot bod and be arrogant than fat and nice. Just saying.”
Read more: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/newly-thin-friend-is-annoyingborderline-arrogant/#ixzz44tQIpR2j
Post # 57
eh im all for calling a spade a spade. Fat is fat, skinny or actual. I mean if she’s unhealthy eating then she is wrong to do that. So are you for unhealthy eating at 1k calorie a day. theres really no competition here as you are both doing it wrong.
Post # 58
All kidding aside OP be careful. Seriously. It seems like you might end up on a slippery slope with the whole calories thing. That’s pretty scary that you are limiting your calories like this. At minimum I suggest you speak with your doc and ensure he/she is on board with this.
Post # 59
Wanting to get healthy and having confidence in your body is completely fine. Starving yourself and purposefully pointing out how “superior” you are because of something as completely arbitrary as being thinner than someone is not fine.
The fact that you tie your physical appearance, in particular your weight as compared to others, to your personal feelings of worth or superiority as you call it, makes me wonder what you actually value in your life. I’m all for health and I applaud anyone who wants to pursue a healthier lifestyle, but that is not what you are doing. And as much as I value health, I value education, charity, art, and human connection just as much if not a bit moreso. Weight and looks fluctuate and fade, my dear, but personal character is forever. You may want to consider broadening your prospects as well.
Post # 60
Y’all OP has spoken in previous threads about living as a diagnosed narcissist, her acting/speaking without empathy or forethought shouldn’t be a shocker.