Post # 1
Tonight as I was cleaning the house, I was reflecting on what has changed since we’ve been planning our wedding.
By way of background, my whole life I would procrastinate on anything that was not related to work or school. But tonight, I got home from work, cleaned the house, took the dog for a walk, cooked dinner, and then worked on the invitation.
All of a sudden, it dawned on me that I was cleaning the house for an event that isn’t happening until the weekend and working on the invitation that doesn’t have to be done *right now*. I realized that the wedding, being such a big thing, has required me to plan ahead… and I’m kind of adapting to it… dare I say, I kind of like it! I’m not rushing with heart pounding to get everything done at the last minute, and it feels kind of good.
So I’m wondering what wedding planning has taught you? Maybe it’s just a new skill, or maybe it’s a bigger lesson?
Post # 3
For me I have learned that I picked the right guy. Not that I doubted it before … but day after day he proves to me that I made the right decision, that we made the right decision. He talks me down from my "bridezilla" moments … and I get him excited about having a wedding. We’ve realized together along the way that you can’t have a wedding without a marriage … and I can’t wait to be married to him.
(Wow that was super cheesy!)
Post # 4
Not cheesy! It’s a great feeling to be with the right person, isn’t it? 😀
Post # 5
I have definitely become more motivated and more likely to follow through witha project.
I never thought I’d be so attached to and invested in all these little wedding details and projects, but it has definitely given me appreciation for the little details that has carried into the rest of my life…the way I want to decorate our new place, the way I cook and the presentation, even the way I keep track of the bills!
This wedding has been a big kick in the pants on time management too! I’m determined to get every project I can cconceivably accomplish completed waay before the wedding. I’ve been much more productive in my personal life in order to get to those projects!
I only hope it continues after the wedding!
Post # 6
Hmmm, I guess for me, I have learned that I’m a little "girlier" than I thought I was. I really like those bridal shows, and it’s kinda nice to have everyone’s attention on me for bridal showers, etc… I always thought we would just get married and it would be like any other day. But now I’m starting to get really excited about the wedding, not just the honeymoon. It’s kinda nice to worry about trivial details that don’t mean anything to anyone except for me and my Fi. I’m just so used to being focused on practicality all the time. 🙂
Post # 7
I’m not what you call a "planner." I tend to fly by the seat of my pants and things work out fine! Like for the weekends, I don’t normally have a set schedule and just tend to go with the flow and make last minute plans.
I am not a procrastinator though and think those are 2 very different things. I guess the wedding planning and the fact that I don’t procrastinate, have made me into a planner. I am pretty much done with everything but the last minute stuff and our wedding it over 2 months away! It feels great and frees up my weekends to go to Cubs games 🙂
Post # 8
I definitely have gotten more organized! Neither of us wants to be stressing about wedding details in the last two months so I’ve worked out a good pace and an extremely detailed calendar for everything that we need to do. Definitely helps keep my head on straight and not get too frustrated.
Also, I’ve become a budget obsessive. I always pretty good with money, but planning a wedding with VERY little money + trying to make sure we save enough for general non-wedding savings has made me really really careful and much more disciplined than before. Having extensive Excel spreadsheeps detailing our dollars really has been practically lifechanging, haha.
Post # 9
I think I’ve gotten better at making my expectations clear and asking for help when I need it. I’ve also learned that sometimes, being really nice and patient doesn’t get you what you want — you have to be blunt and say "this is unacceptable to me, I expect you to correct the problem." I’m usually very reluctant to do anything that might be interpreted as "mean," but I’ve learned that sometimes people will try to take advantage of you if it seems like you won’t put up a fuss!
Post # 10
MelissaB- Don’t you think that is one of the hardest things? There is this fine line between being assertive and being labelled bridezilla, and I feel that so many vendors are so quick to label us as a way of keeping us in line.
Good for you for sticking up for yourself!
Post # 11
I think there are two big changes – first, I am more financially conscious AND cautious. I have become a voracious saver, whereas before, I was more of a spender. We are in the very fortunate position that my parents are paying for our wedding, but, now, I am saving for the future (house, kids) and our upcoming incidential wedding expenses. Before, I would have put everything on my credit card and paid it off. Now, I am actually planning in advance, which feels great.
Second, I am keeping in better touch with my relatives (ie, non-immediate family). The news of a wedding travels fast and far and it has been great reconnecting and staying better connected with family.
Post # 12
The bride has absolute dictatorship over the wedding. Everyone else just makes suggestions.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2009 - Red Fish Grill
Wedding planning has taught (er, forced) me to become more organized. I can also relate to the no-longer-so-much-a-procrastinator comment, doctorgirl!
The other important lesson I’ve learned is that, when necessary, it’s OK to put my foot down. My only unpleasant experience so far was with an invitation vendor. Never being one to confront others or stand up for myself, I got the courage (for once!) to face the situation and do something about it (cancel my order and take the job elsewhere) rather than get upset and stressed out. That’s a BIG one for me.
Post # 14
I will ALWAYS RSVP ASAP with a note!!
Post # 15
ive learned that nobody else can make your decisions for you and to not be influenced or make a decision from pressure!
Post # 16
I have definitely learned to delegate some things. I am so type A and the kind who thinks that it won’t get done right unless I do it myself.
I just had my wedding last week and I was totally able to just let some things go and trust in friends to decorate and see my vision through. It was such a great feeling and everything turned out pefectly.
I also thought I would be much more bridezilla and I think my friends were waiting for the ball to drop last week before the wedding but I was calm and cool and collected and things seemed to just fall into place.